What do you do when you know in your heart your partner is cheating? But you just cant prove it?

Question

Do you leave? What if you love this person and have a new born with them? Would it be worth it to stay? Or is this abuse just wrong, and unforgiveable? (All comments welcome) thank you!

Answer 1

First of all......
You don't know he is cheating.. You THINK he is. My grandfather used to always tell me...
Believe half what you see, and believe NOTHING of what you hear.
It has been my experience that people that KNOW IT IN THERE HEART but can't prove it.. as you say, are reflecting and not seeing the truth.
The easiest way to see if he is cheating on you is to see if he is trusting towards you. Does he trust you, or is he a very jealous guy? Does he always accuse you of cheating, or looking for other guys? If so...BING BING BING!!! Big Red Flag!
Every guy that I have ever known that was cheating on his wife was a real ahole towards his wife when it came to other guys.
The reason this is... See we can only see any given situation through our own eyes. When given any situation we ask our self...Although subconsciously...What would I do? Or what did I do? If there is a hot girl hitting on me... Would I cheat on my wife or would I be faithful? If the answer is Cheat... Then we can only assume that our partner would do the same... So we accuse them of cheating.
It's a simple litmus test... But It really seems to work well.
I wish you all the best, and hang in there if you have a family. You just might have a good guy after all... Don't let suspicions and fear cause you to through out the good cheese cause it smells bad.

Answer 2

I believe that a long term relationship has to be based on thrust and love. An open and healthful communication is very important in a relationship.
If I felt something wrong with my partner, then I have to find a good moment to discuss it openly and nicely without emotion and blaming. I will tell the partner what has doubted my heart and feeling. The discussion should be about what is the type of cheating, why it is happening. Let both of us listen to one another, make it clear and find out a good solution. Do it heart to heart.
But, if this person denied and telling that my feeling is wrong, then I will stay back for a while and give this person the second chance, because I have no proof for now. I do it because I am sure that the time will tell me what the truth is. Now or later is just the matter of time. And if the time has come, then I will make a decision. I will keep the relationship if there still a chance to stay in honesty. Otherwise, I will leave my partner if this person keeps cheating me. Because, for me, it means that there’s no thrust, so that there’s no love. No relationship without a love and thrust.

Answer 3

Then you have to prove it and only then you can decide. You can't just leave because you have a hunch, most especially that you have a newborn. Cheating is wrong in any way you look at it. Nothing can ever justify this. But the tolerance of people for infidelity varies. Some people can forgive and readily gives the cheating partner a chance, but some people heads out the door. I say, you go and find the facts before you jump over the fence.

Answer 4

Really the circumstances of your situation are more important to you than the situation. One can gain the fact that you have some appreciation of the reality that it would be very difficult for you to be on your own and that you are not being cavalier about ending a marriage. Putting all the restrictions of the answer you want is not going to change the truth of the matter. When human beings are involved there are no guarantees or warranties to be had as to a course of behavior. One's best indicators of future action is past behavior. That does not mean people cannot change, but, it most likely it will take a concerted effort with profession help. This is a day to day process of gaining trust or confirming that there has been no change for the better - a very difficult path for you. You go by what the actions are, not by what someone says. Talk is cheap. Behavior and actions will tell you the truth of the matter. His behavior at this point indicates that there is absolutely NO reason to trust him. He has committed repeated offenses. You cannot continue to live your life checking up on your husband and getting in to fights - that will destroy any positive progress you make. As difficult as it will be, you must, for your own mental health, observe his behavior and watch him for several months. You will find the lies with time, if there are any. Simply keep track or a log and then make your decision. You make the time period - 4 - 6 months and try to be the best wife you can. You may even decide to share this plan with your husband and let him know if he cannot build a trustful relationship with you in that time frame, you will have to consider alternative measures. Let him know for that period of time, you will give him the benefit of the doubt, but, you will be observing - this is not a free run. Do your sleuthing quietly. I think you have already made up your mind you do not want to leave and have used your girls as an excuse. If you decide you want to stay - that is your choice, but, do not blame it on your girls. There is treatment for ADD - I have worked with them and many hold down jobs with stability. If it is your choice to stay at home, then accept that in yourself and realize the trade-off may be living with an cheating husband. That works for some people. Be honest with yourself when you make your decision. It would be in your best interest to talk to an attorney. This would not be for a divorce, but, to find out what your rights are under the laws of the state you live in, so when your trial period is over you can make an intelligent decision. If half of the property is yours and your husband knows this, this might be a 'wake up' call for him - or not. But, be informed. If there is any way to join a marriage enrichment group, that would be beneficial to both of you - even if the marriage does not survive. It will teach good communication skills. Best wishes to you.

Answer 5

You have a lot of answers to choose from, let me share 3 more with you;
1st, Just make sure that you aren't insecure;

2ND, If you have been cheated on in the past, and you are constantly reflecting and remembering what he did to you , then you are trying to carry that past relationship into the present, and that will have you insecure and always judgmental and and questioning the slightest thing he dose,

3rd, Be sure that you are satisfying him in the privacy of your home, note unless the baby is in that room every room is a playroom keep the excitement in the relationship, and try new things keep him interested and always look good for him, remember the things you did to get him is the things you have to do to keep him,

Now if those 3 steps don't work out then sister handle your business and do what you gotta do

Answer 6

IF U CANT PROVE IT THEN IT IS CONSIDERED UNTRUE
so i suggest if u realy suspect him u go for an investigation on him but remember it will be bitter if u find out that it is what u thought,,then u can have a serious talk with him after the talk u can decide what happens from if he regrets give him another chance if not then move on but bear in mind that cheating is part of the dating game so dont run to leave him

Answer 7

I would get a friend for support and follow him or hire a private detective if you really think he is cheating. If he begs forgiveness and this is his first time cheating, then it may work if you forgave him. Of course, you need to set up some ground rules, no more cheating or he will lose you for good. I have know couples who have worked it out after an outside affair. If he continues to cheap, leave him for good. If he is abusive to you in any other way, leave him now.

Answer 8

You really need to look inward for your answer. Questions to ask yourself objectively: What are you able to tolerate? What about his behaviour makes you think he is cheating? What makes cheating unacceptable? Why is he cheating? Could you just be paranoid (I know my wife can get that way sometimes)?

Check out a book called "Never Be Lied To Again: How to Get the Truth In 5 Minutes Or Less In Any Conversation Or Situation" by David J. Lieberman

Answer 9

I'd drop kick him, and beat him with a 2x4. Nah, kidding. I'm not sure if I'd be able to stay after being cheated on and lied to. Do what's best for your baby, and yourself. You can start a new beautiful life without your partner, and all the heart ache or worrying and being lied to.

Good luck love,
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Answer 10

i Think It is wrong, that's a line that should not be crossed and tolerated. He obviously cares for you or he would not be cheating he can also leave you for another but has not done so so confront him, clear the situation and make your decision. If he a lost case than leave before you have more babies one is none.