Is it worth risking my marriage for the career I dreamed of before I met him? Or is it my ego getting in the way?
2007-02-14 18:38:58 · 11 answers · asked by I do 26.2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Kristina, I join with those who say that if you pass up the opportunity to live your dreams you will live with regret...and I also agree that hubby should be willing to support you. But what is your problem, his lack of support or your hesitancy to take the plunge? Are you questioning your marriage? Do you wonder if your marriage would survive you chasing your dream? If this is a genuine question in your mind I would say you have already answered it...your marriage isn't that strong. If your concern is more with following your dream, ask yourself how strong is the dream and what exactly does it mean to you? What will better serve you, putting your energy into your marriage or into your dream? Does there have to be a choice? Will your marriage survive your chasing the dream? If not, perhaps you should chase your dream if you feel it will ultimately give you more happiness and satisfaction than the marriage. But again I have to ask if the two are incompatible. Tough decision. Good luck.
2007-02-14 18:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I am going to play advocate here, why doesn't your husband want to support you in your dream? Have you asked him? Is he insecure? If so find out why? Is he just a control freak? Or can you two not financially make it if you were to do this? Are you being selfish? I honestly think you should ask your self these questions, and then think of some more, then find your solution. If you can't afford it find a way that you can and explain to him the way to do it, maybe he isn't understanding your solutions to the issue. But if it's just control, you need to take it back, and stand up for yourself and your dreams, even though he is one of them, you can have two at the same time, talk to your husband and explain the delima you are having about this situation, and how it is possibly going to affect your marriage if you two can't find a solution. Good Luck!
2007-02-14 18:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone should strive to attain their dreams! Talk to your husband and try to explain how important it is to you. Most of all let him know you'd really like is support, but if he is unwilling or unable to give it to you, you'll still pursue your aspirations. I went back to school some years after my husband and I were married. He wasn't supportive of the idea, but he at least grew to accept it once he realized I was going to stick w/ it anyway. If your husband really cares for you he won't leave, and if he does you're probably better off w/out him. That would make him extremely selfish. Things don't always work out the we way we plan, sometimes you have to do things that are just for you. Good luck, hope he comes around!
2007-02-14 18:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by Jay K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband means a lot to you. Thumbs up for that. Then again it sounds like you would to prosper in life, and you will be trulllllllyyyy happy if you do change your careers. I will not support you leaving your husband for a career, you'll end up miserable. What I can tell you is talk to him and let him know how important it is to you, the reason why you want to change careers, make him understand and he may just change his mind. Good luck.
2007-02-14 19:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your husband. If you really want your career so much, you shouldn't have married, you should have pursued your career. What he wants now is a wife, not a child whose "hobby" he has to support. If you can have a career and bring back a big paycheck without his support, it's another story.
2007-02-14 18:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
his ego or your ego...jealosey or ego same difference ..you say tomato he says....."What about us"......marriage or dream career...of how long ago?....so is it worth risking your marriage?
I have to ask you .....or is your ego too big that you can't hear..your own answer....can you see his?....by the way you sell this is by the way you'll both re-act......he's re-acting and you did a poor job selling it ..use love ...it will work,it has to be the husbands idea---"who says you have to risk your marriage?"
2007-02-14 18:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by Smith & Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about this. Make him understand that this decision will make you happy.
That would be unfair if he wouldn't support you with your career but it wouldn't also be a good idea if you'd risk your marriage for career when YOU CAN BALANCE BOTH.
2007-02-14 18:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by LadyLuv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want to change your career - do it. u will feel like a loser when the opportunity and time are gone and u will hate your hubby and blame him for everything cos people tend never blame themselves. so go after career. at least even if u don't succeed in it u will have an excuse "at least i tried"
2007-02-14 18:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cares about you then he will let you go for your dream PERIOD. Do not let the years pass or allow anyone to hold you back from doing what you want to. If he loves you he will understand.
2007-02-14 18:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you! But I'd be pissed if my husband flat out told me he would not support me in my dream!
2007-02-14 18:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by Two Peas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋