I am scrapbooking for the first time. My first project is compiling albums about each of my 4 grown children. They all went through years when they were down right fat and some had severe acne. I know how it feels to see yourself and be embarrassed all over again. After seeing some horrible pictures of myself, I'm definitely on a diet. I'm the one doing the compiling so I can eliminate my terrible pictures. Should I eliminate theirs or is it important to keep them in so they don't think I was ashamed of them. I want the albums to be something they really enjoy seeing and not moan when they see me dragging them out.
2007-02-14 18:05:46 · 7 answers · asked by Jennine G 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No, I don't think you should. I recently read an article about how these kinds of memories of family history are being destroyed because of digital cameras. There are no longer shoeboxes full of pictures that didn't make the album...that people can discover and reminisce about because they are discarded and never printed. I think it's a tragedy. Certainly everyone goes through these things and to destroy that history is just an illusion. Maybe one day when their kids are feeling bad about the way they look then they could pull these pictures out and show them their own awkward phase and make them feel better. These pictures are irreplaceable. Don't throw them out.
2007-02-14 18:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by Some Guy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love your children no matter their looks - isn't it?? Therefore you must "educate" them accordingly, not to be ashamed on how they looked as kids. Sometimes, we parents, think that our own believes and fears are the same with our children. Well, it is not so.
My daughter was the ugliest baby I had seen. Now she is a most beautiful girl. I keep her first photo and whenever we look at it we have laughs! I tell her " If I don't like your fiance, I will show him this picture" and we have fun! It is a matter of perception.
Do not eliminate those pictures. Better teach your children that no matter how they looked, they are lovable, beautiful and good persons.
And realize that our own fears are not necessarily our children's
2007-02-15 02:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. I enjoy seeing myself as a fat chubby kid as ugly as I was. I'm not the same person I was when I was young and I know that, and your grown up children do too. If you get rid of them, you'll probably think you were ashamed, and you're not. So keep them and I bet the whole family will get lots of laughs : )
2007-02-15 03:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by jii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you consider to be unflattering. If your kids have grown up to be great adults, then your scrapbooking project only goes to show how they have overcome many obstacles to become the great people they are now. Instead of it being something that embarrasses them, you can use it to actually be a confidence builder in their future.
2007-02-15 02:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my 3 grown kids come and go through all of the pictures with me. They all picked some pictures to keep and some to get rid of. Some pictures that my daughter hated, my other daughter liked, so whoever wanted them, got them. So, we all helped decide which were keepers and which ones we just laughed at ripped to shreds.
2007-02-15 02:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How are they going to know that you're ashamed of them?
They might think that they were cute.
2007-02-15 02:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a shallow jerk you are!
2007-02-15 02:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by gus_zalenski 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋