would you marry someone you fell in love with but he have brain defects? and he cannot make alot of money...etc.
2007-02-14 17:40:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK you love the guy, so marry him, you can always make enough money for the both of you...go to school and get an eduction then go out there and be happy.
2007-02-14 17:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through these things with my first husband. Not the immature part, but the falling out of love. Quite honestly I think that you are wishing he would find someone else so that you could walk away without hurting him. That may not be very likely. I too believe that a marriage is sacred and if you can possibly find that love again, or work through the problems, you should. However, that being said, life is short, you need to be happy. You need to be in a relationship where you are IN LOVE not just going through the motions. I don't know how your husband is with commmunicating, but you need to sit him down and talk to him. Tell him how you truly feel. Either he can try to work towards the two of you fixing things or he may not even be aware that there is a problem. Good Luck! I wish you the very best.
2016-03-29 07:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You marry someone for who they are, if you love him and want to marry him just know you cannot hold what he cannot change against him. You have to be able to love him and his defects however big or small. As far as financially, as long as you two can survive on the combined income it shouldn't even be a worry. I hope you make the right decision, if you really love him then something like that shouldn't matter. Good Luck!
2007-02-14 17:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by tylw85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That choice is up to you totally. If you can be happy that way go for it, but not before you have a good hard think about it. Like is the brain damage something that could be handed down to any of the children that you might have with this person etc.
2007-02-14 18:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how patient and willing to sacrifice and what kind of life you want. My husband of going on 7 years has congenital brain damage from forcepts being used at childbirth. He's highly functional and we carry on great conversation and he has his strengths and weaknesses in intelligence like anyone else. He recieves benefits from the government. If you want your mate to take care of you financially, don't marry him, but if you don't mind finding your own way to make money I'd say if you love him, he loves you and you get along well go ahead. You have to be patient of course, and if you have to care for him in some ways, make sure that others (ie his family, friends, nursing agency) help you when you need a break. Think very seriously about it. I don't know how functional your boyfriend is, but think about what kind and how much care he needs. Think about will you be able to fill his needs and will he be able to fill your needs. My husband and I are very happy together.
2007-02-14 18:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by malomar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love conquers all. Why should money be in issue. when you exchange wedding vows--Richer or poorer, sickness and health. take care of your love, God will bless. Think of it this way you met him normal, he had a car accident end up being brain damage and ....and what. So love him and do the best you can, no matter what no one says people are not in your shoes.
2007-02-14 17:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mofabolist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no price on love. If you love someone it wouldn't matter the disability.it is unconditional. time is precious. use it wisely You can make allot of money which takes time. the more you make the less time you have. Money isn't always the answer. Life is too short. Love is forever . I would take advantage of your time. And follow your heart it will guide you.
2007-02-14 17:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by luvtopaint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very complex and personal decision. But be aware that if you do marry him, he will need a lot of support from you, and the two of you will need a lot of support from some kind of supprt system--doctors, psychologists, social workers, depending on the nature of his disability, and of course family and friends. Don't go it alone.
2007-02-14 17:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need more details here. What kind of brain defects are you talking about?
2007-02-14 17:43:31 · answer #9 · answered by buebla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fell in love with the person not his illness or ability to make money. It depends on what YOU VALUE.
2007-02-14 17:48:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋