My friend became pregnant 5 weeks after I did. She was very jealous when I told her I was pregnant because she wanted to be pregnant too.
I announced to our friends that I am pregnant today. She already told them she was pregnant as soon as she found out, so they have known for weeks.
When I told them I was 13 weeks pregnant, she said, "No, you are not 13 weeks, you are 13 weeks TOMORROW."
Seriously, isn't 12 weeks, 6 and a half days pretty much 13 weeks?
Is she just jealous that I am 13 weeks and she is 8 weeks? Why would she make sure all our friends know I am not 13 weeks today???
2007-02-14 17:36:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
We are both in our mid 20's!! WTF is wrong with her? LOL
2007-02-14 17:43:42 · update #1
tyl39: Quite the opposite, my husband and I have wanted a child for years. My friend wanted a baby, but got pregnant by accident. So I don't see why she would be jealous when my husband and I were the ones who were upset about not conceiving.
2007-02-14 18:13:12 · update #2
She sounds very jealous and guess what?? You guys have a long way to go!! I wouldnt even talk to her about the pregnancy because her negativity will only upset you. I know because this girl I know is due near me and she keeps trying to compare our babies and they arent even here yet!! She even stole my babies name (first and middle) now aint that a pain!!
2007-02-14 18:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by Oops! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something odd to be jealous over, but it sounds like jealousy all the same. I am 16 weeks and 1 day and all I care about is that I have a healthy child. I'm happy for my friends who have had babies. I would think that she would be happy at 8 weeks. It's just a weird thing to be jealous over. I wouldn't lose to much sleep over it. *LOL* If I was even envious it would be because you get your child sooner than I do. It wont matter the age when the child get here though.
2007-02-14 17:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps there's a part of you that for some reason feels guilty about not pursuing motherhood. I'm not sure of your age, but many women wait until much later in life to start having children. (look at all the older celebrities with young children!) So if you want to travel then travel; there's much to be gained from seeing different places and parts of the world. Who knows, maybe after awhile the "baby bug" will get you too and you might even have more to offer your child at that time. Of course my answer is just a guess with some assumptions made, but hopefully it will help enable you to examine your feelings a little more. (It could also be the attention she gets as a Mom to be..?)
2016-05-24 01:49:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she's jealous, was she trying for awhile and you just ended up pregnant by chance? If so she has some right to her feelings but her actions are unjustified. Let her know how you feel, maybe she'll open up about her real feelings and why her behaviors been as such. It can be hard on someone who is trying and they see people all around them just get pregnant on accident, it's painful to watch. Let her know that you're glad she's pregnant too soo that you can go through this together. Obviously she was a good friend beforehand or hopefully you wouldn't of put up with her behavior otherwise. Good Luck and Congradulations on BOTH of your pregnancies.
2007-02-14 18:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by tylw85 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As u know, pregnancy hormones have us feeling all kind of emotions, some more intense than before. When I'm happy, I'm happy. When I'm mad, get the hell outta my way, u know?=] So jealousy can be a little bit over the top, thanks mainly to our hormones. If she has always been a bit over the top with u before, maybe u should evaluate and see if the relationship between u 2 is worth having, because u don't need any extra stress. But if she's been sincerely ur friend before, and u know u want her friendship, def talk to her, and let her know that this is bothering u. U need all the support u can get during this time, capesh?!
Good luck sweets.
2007-02-14 18:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by teki_02 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that sounds like jealousy. Maybe you should talk to her about this. Maybe she's feeling cheated because usually a woman who is pregnant is pretty special and gets a lot of attention, but since both of you are pregnant, she might feel like you'll get all the attention and she and her baby won't because they're second. It will be a hard conversation to have, but you should think seriously about it. If she's jealous now, think about what will happen when your baby is born first, smiles first, sits up first, crawls first, talks first, walks first. It could get ugly. Better to face it now.
2007-02-14 17:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by hermione_speaks 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you do have a very jealous friend on your hands! that totally stinks! atleast you waited to say something after your first tri-mester!if you know what i mean and 12 weeks and 6 days is pretty much 13 weeks! i really dont go by the days! LoL weeks is fine for me! i dont even know what month i am in! ill be 28 weeks friday
2007-02-14 17:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is a little jealous you got pregnant 1st!!!
after all your baby will be here before hers, i think she told everyone before you did so she could get a little attention before you !!!
try to ignore this its not worth losing a friendship over
congratulations on your baby x x x x
2007-02-14 17:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by mum_2_many 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is jealous....my bff got preggo a few weeks after me and she is jealous bc i got preggo by my hunny of 3 years and she didnt know her babies daddy and was living a wild life style so she ended up getting an abortion and i can tell it hurts her for me to talk about the baby....i wouldnt associate with her bc she is going to make you feel bad and this is a happy time
2007-02-14 18:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
im going through the same thing but this is with my former friend...its funny cause we still share the same group of friends.. after i told my friends i was pregnant she found out and she started telling EVERYONE...i mean come on this girl even put it as her myspace name lol...she called me one day to aske me how many weeks i was and i told her 7 weeks and 3 days she's like oh thats funny im 7 weeks and 6 days....ok like it matters!!! but i know what you mean, its like the level of immaturity she has...
2007-02-14 18:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by iluvmypenguin623 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋