I am 100% straight. This guy apparently had the hots for me the moment I shook his hand. I'm a friendly guy, and I say hi or chat it up with random strangers any place any time. Now I can't get him away. I don't want to be offensive or rude but sometimes he is just too flaming. For instance he will sometimes blurt out his sexual fantasies, or when I was working on my car and he offered to help I was fine with it, but he just sat there and took pictures with his cell phone of me working on it. I'm starting to get frustrated because he is always texting me to "hang out" and he even bugs me about wanting to come to my jiu-jitsu practice and watch me.
I don't want to completely blow him off, but I can see no other alternative. He is overall a cool guy, but sometimes he's just too flaming. I told him to tone it down, but I'm still afraid to hang out with him with just us two in public unless another person is there (who is straight, girl or guy).
What the hell should I do?
2007-02-14 16:50:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well it's sort of hard, because he has introduced me to many many girls. And one of them I may actually be starting a relationship with, and he is fully aware of this. I may just have to take him aside and have a man to... man (?) talk about the way he acts. Thank you all for your suggestions.
2007-02-14 18:25:01 · update #1
Tell him the truth about how you feel. You like him as a friend and think he is cool, but some of the things he does makes you uncomfortable. If he wants to be your friend, he should respect that. If not tell him to move on cause your not interested in anything else. He won't know unless you tell him.
2007-02-14 16:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by tmills883 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are guys, straight or gay and lots of them just don't take no for an answer. Now you see what women go through with men all the time! It is really annoying! I guess you should just nicely tell him that you like being friends with him, but you just don't want to give him any wrong ideas or have any confusion about the friendship. And make sure there's another person around if you hang out. It sounds to me as if he's trying to see if there's ANY chance you are at least bi-curious. I'm a lesbian who sees lots of gay men act like your friend does. Just don't give him ANY wrong ideas. You might not even be able to be friends with him if he didn't respect your wishes to 'tone it down.'
2007-02-14 17:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you just said in that question. By the sounds of it, he's getting pretty into you, and I hate to say it, but I think you're just going to end up breaking his heart regardless of what you do. Let him know, you like him as a friend, and don't want to lose that, but you don't see him as anything more than that.
Be warned, he will likely be a bit upset, and not want to see you for a bit, but it would probably do him good so he can clear his head. after that, it's up to him what happens.
2007-02-14 17:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by Xavier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blow him off, dude.
If you told him to "tone it down" and he doesn't, then he obviously has no respect for you.
I'd blow him off in a heart beat, and I'm gay. Go figure !
2007-02-14 17:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooh a flirt, those are difficult regardless of sexuality. Either just be firm and ask him to stop or just ignore it and learn to live with it.
2007-02-14 18:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you just told us. Show him a copy of this question if necessary. You shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable in this situation..and he should know better.
2007-02-14 17:16:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
blow him off. you have valid reasons - not because he's gay, but because he's f-ing annoying.
2007-02-14 18:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋