I love my baby (am now 22 weeks pregnant) and want him so bad. With my daughter I had problems bonding during pregnancy due certain stresses. This time I am bonding more (I think that knowing what to expect with a second child is part of that)... but it feels wrong. I love it when he kicks.. but to have another person inside of me feels sick somehow. And to think of nursing him (which I alwasy do with my kids) seem wrong somehow... it all seems perverted somehow... to intimate. What the heck is wrong with me? This is my baby! Why do I feel like this?
2007-02-14 16:27:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Here is a poem I wrote for a new grandmother...I redid it for you to tell to your baby.
I hope it helps you feel better.
Hello little one!
This is your mother speaking.
I just wanted to say
I am so glad you are coming.
I have daydreams about you.
A little baby to hold so tight.
Dressed in pink, blue or white.
To cuddle the whole day through.
To take to the park,
Or walk outside,
I just want to be with you.
We will sit and rock the day away.
Coo and laugh
And do what you do.
And when you grow up
I hope you remember
I love you.
ccje
2007-02-14 16:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some mother's feel this way and it passes when the child is born.Your pregnant, your body is going through all kinds of things right now, just like it did when you was carrying your first child.Some of what your feeling my be flash backs from your other time.If you are really worried about this speak with your doctor and maybe they can help you out more.But until then, just think about what the childs first smile will be like.Think about what their first laugh will be like.Think about what joy you will feel when you see the child for the first time.Think about how you will feel the first time those tiny little fingers wrap so softly around your finger.Hope this helps some and I hope that the rest of your time being pregnant is filled with joy.Just remember you've done all this before and look at your oldest child now.
2007-02-14 16:41:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like your hormones are taking you for a roller coaster ride. Get as much rest as possible. Drink lots of water and eat well. Don't focus obsessively on stuff - mothering come natural and you'll love that baby so much that you get up all hours to feed change take care of him no matter what. Right now take care of yourself and the other child. God bless.
2007-02-14 17:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal to feel this way and yes it can be hormonal but don't be discouraged though the baby will Love you always and will make you happy and sad and always make you wonder what there up to when you don't see them or there being quiet. But that's all about the meaning of being a parent. Just Love your child and be there best friend forever.
2007-02-14 16:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by reddog_1965 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a chew of shpercentt. i won't be in a position to have confidence you may rigidity your female buddy to have an abortion. human beings chop up their love between many extra effective than 2 young babies consistently. you're able to have wrapped your boy up, so this did no longer ensue. i'm hoping your spouse takes you to the cleaners, and your gf gets the paternity try to forces you to pay toddler help. single mothers make it consistently. you're in basic terms yet another lifeless beat dad. additionally, why did you get married and start up up dating suitable after your first anniversary? After 12 years, she merits extra dedication from you. Love isn't in easy terms a feeling, yet a call we make.
2016-09-29 03:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by aharon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would blame it on the hormones but keep an eye on your feelings. If they get worse after the baby is born tell your doctor immediately. You could have post-partum depression.
Barring that possibility, I know how you feel with the breast feeding issue. Men have always oggled my breasts and now to consider them for something as necessary as feeding feels weird. With my first child, the lactation consultant, pediatrician, and OB/GYN would try to show me the "proper" techniques and would just handle my breasts arbitrarily with me thinking "What the hell is wrong with you people?"
But I am trying to make my peace with it and if it doesn't work out then I will pump and bottle feed to avoid the odd feelings. As long as my kid gets the breastmilk, thats all that matters to me.
2007-02-14 16:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by tiger_lilly33186 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, our hormones are so off balanced that silly thpughts like these creep into our minds, catching us off guard. U are not sick. Ok? Some women feel displaced, like they're floating out of their bodies during pregnancy. Hormones make us feel so emotional and out of balance with everything. Its normal honey, and I guarantee u these feelings will subside very soon. Try and ignore them. I breastfed my daughter until she was 7 months, and out of habit, she would reach up and squeeze my breasts as she nursed. Although she is 13 months and bottlefed, whenever she feels sleepy. she reaches her hand in my shirt and touches my chest. I'm pregnant again, and it feels strange, to where I sometimes slap her hand away but I know its my hormones that have me so moody and jumpy-its not my fault or hers. Just like what u're feeling isn't ur fault or ur unborn child. Relax, pray..u'll be fine. Good luck hon.
2007-02-14 16:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by teki_02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy? I don't know if it's your hormones, but I think you would feel much better if you had a husband to help in your pregnancy, your family obligations, your babysitting, and your life. So, why not grab the guy who is impregnating you and go to the courthouse for a marriage license, and then drop into the Justice of the Peace for a marriage certificate. I bet you'll feel much better about your entire situation, especially about yourself. Certainly, as your children grow older, they will feel more secure and appreciative of your life decisions. That is, do it for the sake of your children if for no other reason.
2007-02-14 16:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i feel exactly the same way you do. I love that i'm pregnant with #2 and that my family is growing, but for some reason, i'm just not happy. I sometimes dont accept the fact that i'm pregnant. everyone says its hormones, but watch out for other symptoms as well. either way, my main concern is the baby...if it's feeling my feelings..
2007-02-14 16:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a hormonal thing but I have always felt nursing was dirty. I mean people get so mad at me but your husband sucks on your breast and your going to let a child do it. You can atleast pump it out into a bottle.
2007-02-14 16:41:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋