I am trying to et my own apt., and currently renting a room from someone, however she is very laid back and lets my bf spend the night/come over whenever, i know if there is availibility(sp?) it would be better for me if i lived closer to school and that i can afford a place closer but i can't seem to get him to understand that if i move unless he moves in with me i he can't stay over so much. I would like to live together since we pretty much do it now anyway but he says he wants to "mooch off my parents atleast until i'm out of school". he ie graduating 2yr program in may and going to a 4yr school to finish starting in the fall. when i asked which of these he ment by finishing school he says idk, we'll see. What does THAT mean. i don't want to pressure him into anything but i also know i don't want to stay where i am living right now and i don't know how to get a straight answer out of him. any advice?
2007-02-14 16:23:49 · 2 answers · asked by butterflygurl085 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
talk to him seriously.. say he needs to make up his mind.. if he doesnt want to live with you he cant stay over for more than 3 nights a week, and he has to go home for more showers and meals than he probably expects now. my friend has a similar prob, but she has lived with a guy for a few years, but he doesnt want a serious relationship so she made him move out, but now he still stays there nearly every night, eats her food, and watches her tv, yet now he doesnt have to pay for rent, electricity, nothing! ive told her just what i said to you up there, if theyre staying more than that much theyre living there and they should pay. its not your responsibility, and if u dont stop it and he gets more comfortable, then you will resent him later and it will be harder to sort it out. just be straightforward in saying what you want. if he gets angry about that then you're better off without him. he should respect you enough to understand.
2007-02-14 16:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by zimba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to do what is best for you, it sound like he
want to mooch off you and his parents, he know how you feel
and what you want, he really sound selfish.
2007-02-15 00:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋