My big brother is the father to a baby girl that he walked away from, moved away from and doesn't ever see. the mother of his child is a really nice person and an awesome mom, I really like and respect her. she keeps making plans with me and then at the last minute ( ie. I'm on the higway to her place 1/2 hour away) and she calls with some lame excuse about not being able to hang out. I consider the times we have hung out pretty awesome, quality not quantity. Do you think its because I remind her of my brother? I just feel like people who say their "going to do something, and never do it " to me that means they really didn't care to in the first place. ya know?I guess I just want to hear another perspective on the issue please give me some tips!!!
thanks
Kelene
2007-02-14 15:53:17 · 3 answers · asked by Kelene H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Maybe U remind her of your brother and she does not want to see u.
or maybe, she is the type of person who is a nice person generally, but cannot become intimate or in simple words, cannot give of herself in a relationship. She finds all the excuses not to give. Maybe that is why your brother broke off with her. So she is finding all the excuse to stop u from coming close to her.
2007-02-14 16:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right - maybe she just sees your brother in you, and that's nothing you can do to control. Tell her that you don't appreciate when she blows you off last minute, and that you are trying to make an effort to hang out with her as friends. keep in mind though that she has been hurt in the past, and may have difficulty trusting in people. It takes time. Tell her you are always here for her but don't appreciate being blown off (Don't bring up the topic about your brother, though! I think you know not to do that...) if you talk to her, you can probably clarify that issue and mantain your friendship. GL!
2007-02-14 15:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by i love love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is torn between what she wants to do and what she thinks she "should" do. I hope she gets to follow her own heart. Maybe You should come out and Ask her why she keeps changing her mind? Not that she would be ready with an answer, but that's what's wrong!! You two need to talk some real deals.
You may be wasting your time!! Then again, maybe not!! Find out!! Good Luck!! @8-)
2007-02-14 16:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋