I'm scared...?

Question

this is baby #2 for me, and yet my husband is in iraq. i'm 39 weeks along and he can't be here for the baby. i'm just scared because he won't be here. what can i do to ease my fear? his parents are here, and i'm fine with them. yet i'm just scared. serious answers please

i don't want web cam or satellite video of the birth because of past personal childhood reasons. but do plan on taking pictures after

Answer 1

well I would say with you hospital bag pack a photo of your hubby and one if his shirts squirt a little of hid cologne that you most love to hold onto while thinking of him and think of when he comes home how happy he will be to see his new little miricale there waiting for him and also you and him being a happy family you deserve...also I would like to say thank you to you and your husband he is over there fighting this war for us all and you should be honored to have a man like that make sure he knows he is appreciated -kristy

Answer 2

My husband is leaving soon to Iraq and we are planning on getting pregnant since we have been trying for over two years and he left for 11 months to Iraq and to get an infertility appt takes forever. if you wait for the Army it will never happen. If we get pregnant within the next two months he might not be able to be here for the birth. I would love to make him see it and see him faint hehe, but who am I to say since I never been pregnant and don't know how the hormones will affect me or how I would feel almost time to the birth. We decided to do it because as Army spouses we don't really know when they will be here or not, things change. I am moving back home, to be close to a support system, my sister and my parents which have always been there for me. Find someone you trust to help you through those times. Be strong for him and be strong for yourself. If he has deployed before you should have at least an idea of what to expect while he is out. A lot of the times they get R&R (midtour) and could ask for the time off during your expected delivery time. Is not during the holidays which many of the guys are unable to get off to come back home. My Best friend's husband was in Korea and asked for Feb off to be here for the birth of the baby which they had on the 7th. I wish the guys in Iraq would get more than 2 weeks. If it is very important for you for him to be here when you are about to be due tell him not to waist the midtour before the baby comes like when u r in early or mid pregnancy try to do it at the end. I am pretty sure if he is in one of those long deployments he will get R&R if he is only on the 3 month deployments at least you will see him soon. Take care

PS: Just read that one more week and probably you will have your baby. Don't worry send him plenty of pics and a video of baby once it's born

Answer 3

I was petrified with baby #2 but I wasn't in your situation with hubby being away....is it possible to ask someone close to you to REALLY be there for you? Someone to fill that void that your husband has left behind? I would imagine you are very emotional and in need of that extra support during this time...If I was you - I would ask someone you can rely on 110% to be your support person or 'birthing partner'. Someone you can lean on for all the support from now until the arrival of your baby AND even after the baby is here....Good Luck to you!

Answer 4

i know how you feel, my husband is over in iraq as well and wont be home for the birth of our second baby in August. I was very upset over this at first and still am alittle. Just relax, you dont need to worry yourself over it. He may not be there for that moment but you can tape it and he will be there so many other time in your childs life. good luck hun

Answer 5

I am a nurse in Labor and delivery for an Army Medical Center.I see many women go through thie alone. It's very sad, but I can assure you that even though it may be emotionally difficult for you, you will get through it. Try to get a family member there to be with you for support. if not, hopefully the nursing staff will be as supportive as I try to be. Good luck.

Answer 6

Is there any way that you can have a computer in the room so he can talk you through things? its kinda a long shot, but maybe it would work. Or maybe if you get to chat on msn or yahoo, you could record him encouraging you so he can "be" in the room with you and your parents. I feel for you, I couldnt be a wife of a soldier, or not have my husband with me in the delivery room. I will pray for you guys, good Luck

Answer 7

Its ok.....My cousin's fiance is off to Iraq also. She tells me about all the emotional pain and things she's going through. But just try and calm down about it, he'll pull through it. As long as you believe in your husband and have faith that he's thinking about you and your two kids and he's going to try his hardest to make it back to you, then everything will be fine.

Answer 8

i know alot of commands try to be as accomodating as possible, see if you can use a web cam, or be able to talk to him on the phone. they may let him knowing how difficult it is, well depending on his unit. otherwise, i would recommend lots of family and friends, have them all around you as much as possible. and be careful for ppd (post depression) goodluck hope everything works out for you

Answer 9

It is perfectly normal to be scared. I am glad you have his parents there with you. I just want to thank you and your husband for the sacrifices you both make. God Bless you and hold you close.

Answer 10

the thing is he may not be there physically but he is there in your heart. you just have to be strong for your baby's sake and if you can you can talk to him on the phone or send letters to him. try watching more movies or take up a new hobbie. anything to help pass time.