okay, well my friend, well actually ex-friend, said something mean and un-called for to me about a week before christmas, and i haven't spoken to her since, and my other friend keeps leaving msgs. in her away msgs about how we should make up and how all this fighting is stupid. All I'm waiting for is an apology; she knows what she did. And my other friend should stay in her own buisness.
am i right?
2007-02-14 15:51:14 · 5 answers · asked by ♥Casey♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, yes, but all your other friend is trying to do is be the peace maker and try to help you guys be friends again. So don't be too hard on her about that...just tell her politely that that this rift is between you and your other friend and you two need to work it out on your own. Nothing she can do can really control what happens between you two.
2007-02-14 15:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by i love love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most hardest thing for a person to say is " Sorry." Of course many people may think it is an easy thing to do, but when you truely mean it, it will be very hard to say... So, while waiting an apology from this friend, you should indicate some signs of forgiveness as well. This will encourage her to complete her apology... Staying mad at her will only make her reluctant to offer an apology...
My best advice is: Smile with her, still show some signs of unhappiness, she will get the hint, and eventually she will come right in and say, " I am really sorry."
2007-02-14 23:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel about wanting your "ex-friend" to apologize to you. However, you need to do some things about this so you can get over the situation. I would suggest you contact her and tell her how you are feeling and that you would like an apology from her. If she doesn't want to apologize, at least you tried. In the meantime, you need to forgive her and forget the whole situation if you two find out no one is going to give up on this. Don't spend your life hating her. Your time isn't worth it. Who knows. Maybe one day you two will make up and that will be great. Good luck either way.
2007-02-15 00:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you made it clear that you are waiting for an apology? sometimes even though we think its really obvious thats what we want, we still have to make that clear. i think your other friend is probably stressed out over the fact that you two aren't talking. its probably rough on her too especially if you were all really close or something. putting people in the middle like that, even if you don't mean to is kind of unfair to them and all thery're going to want to do is try to remedy the problem to try and get things back to normal. sometimes friendships have to end, and if you are serious about not wanting to talk to this other person anymore then you need to make that clear as well because otherwise playing a wait an see game will stress all of you out and will likely make someone blow up on someone else making things 100 times worse then they are right now. sometimes all it takes is a long conversation where you tell them exactly how you're feeling and they tell you what they're feeling. no arguing, yelling, fighting, name calling ect. simply sit down and talk it out. if you decide to not be friends after that at least you all gave it a try right?! if you feel like that won't work, i've found that writing an email or letter is really quite helpful. that way you can get out exactly what you are feeling and it is up to them to read it. then you've done what you can and its up to them to read it and reply back to you with how they are feeling or something. i have found from experience with my friends that this is a good way to start a line of communication between you and the friend that said the uncalled for remark.
i hope something has helped in this long ramble of mine. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-02-14 23:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is alright to have a cool off period from your ex-friend.It appears as though you both are being quite stubborn. If the friendship is be, somehow something will break the ice. Your other friend means well when she says you should make up with your other friend, but it is strictly your decision on how you want to do this. Tell your friend who keeps leaving the messages that she will not have to leave anymore messages because you understand and no one can make the decision on how you should handle this but you.
2007-02-15 00:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋