2007-02-14 15:43:06 · 25 answers · asked by tonneau32 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to think of the other man as Satin breaking up your marriage and family, pray 4 support from above.
2007-02-14 15:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by janine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they're two completely different people. Your husband is the person that you're used to, he's always there, and you don't have to think twice about it. You're with him because you love him. But you know him so well that he often fails to excite or surprise you anymore. The other man, he intrigues you because he either (a) acts like your husband did before you got married, and you miss that part of him; or (b) he represents excitement in one way or another: He embodies the question "What if I wasn't married yet?".
I think you should figure out what exactly you find exciting in this other man, and try to find that in your husband again. If it's in the bedroom, buy something sexy, and approach him...show him you want to start something intimate. He'll likely have no problem following your lead. If it's because he never takes you anywhere nice, stop waiting and take him out instead.
As for the other fellow, I don't know how close your contact is with him; if it is distant, you should probably try to politely limit your contact with him for a while, especially while you try working with your husband. On the other hand, if you are close with him, make him your deepest guy friend: by this, I mean the guy you go to for advice about your husband and male relatives. Guys who care about you (but who are not married to you!) have a vested interest in giving you good advice because they know if will make you happy. This in itself may be enough to break any "extra" feelings you may have for him.
I know what you're going through. I have a deep love for my best guy friend, so deep that I was once sure I was destined to spend my life with him. But I know he can't take care of me the way my man can. I have fully explained this to my man, and to tell the truth, since I've told him, he's tried harder to show me his love. (I wouldn't advise this if your husband has a angry-jealous disposition, because it can backfire.)
I know that the temptation cannot be ignored...but, please, don't break your marriage vows for any such satisfaction. The resulting situation would get very messy!
I really hope this helps you out; good luck, sugar!
Let me know how it turns out!
amieehtchnsn@yahoo.ca
2007-02-15 00:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by Amiee H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from other man and tell husband that you love him and then tell husband the truth that you have feeling for other man but you intend to be true to him then take husband to other guy and tell him that this is your husband and that he is the only one in your life or ever will be!!!
Don't let feeling for another ruin your marriage and all the dreams you can share with him!
Ask husband to help by telling you he love you everyday and tell him you love him & only him every day!
You will neutralize the other man and feeling's for him and make the ones you have for husband even stronger!
Good Luck & God Bless you and your marriage!
2007-02-14 23:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by T S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are feeling lust for the other guy. Love is more than just a feeling. It is a combination of many things. Trust, friendship, respect, lust, experiences, and many other things make up love. It is just sad that a lot of people get lust and love confused. Walk away is all I can say. If this is an office flirt then you need to end it before you hurt someone.
2007-02-14 23:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by sdo3lg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my god! I just posted a question similar to this yesterday. Short version of my story...My marriage is sexless and has been for almost the entire 6 years of its existance. I worked out of town at the time of this....I had an affair with a co worker I was in charge of at work. I was in my twenties, him late thirties. I fell head over heels for this guy. All was going "well" for awhile. Then, his EX wife found out about it....got crazy jealous. She called my house and talked to my mother in law. Mega busted...! Well, i went to his home to break it off. Mind you, he was divorced from this woman. Breaking it off was the last thing that happened. I have tried to forget him....i just can't! I know exactly how you feel. I will not leave my husband for this man for two reasons:
1. His ex is a psycho that would probably kill me
2. I have two kids and would never break up their home
So, I just think about my situation. And, I dont know if you feel this way, too, honey...but it is Valentine's Day. Doesn't that make it worse?? Well, just wanted to let you know your feelings are not alone. Also, take the nasty comments with a grain of salt. Isn't it clear that the world only contains a few sinners and so many saints.....
Good luck! If you ever want to chat back and forth...drop me an email.
demongelding1@hotmail.com
2007-02-15 00:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by demongelding1@hotmail.com 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some people may think of it as u love him for lust. what ur after now is about you who have this feelings to someone else and reassuring that you also love your husband. the point is, the love for your husband and ur love to someone else is different. you can't change the reality that the first person whom u fall is ur husband. sometimes there's a reason why people still fall in love aside from their husband. maybe your only looking for more attention in the absence of your husbands responsibility in you. there's nothing wrong to fall inlove.... we're not planning it... we felt for it. but just be careful in every moves and steps u want to do and think about what consequences might brings you.
2007-02-15 00:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by bliss 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it probably isn't madly in love - more likely madly in lust, isn't it? Come on now, be truthful to yourself. Lust passes with time - if you don't act on it - it passes even more quickly. One day you will wake up and realize it is your husband you love. Just make sure you didn't burn your bridges on that front by acting on an impulse of lust.
2007-02-14 23:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by Monkey Lips 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
u can't love two at the same time...am 25 yrs old and i fell in love with a man 20 yrs older than me...and he was married with 2 kids...no any other guy that was younger more energetic and handsome could attract me or fall for anyone else other than him...when u love someone he's the whole world to u no matter any seductions u get and u would sacrifice for him with no limits...i had to get away from my man coz i loved him and did not want to ruin his life...i am now with another man and cant be able to love anyone else....moral if the story figure out he is ur love...u cant love 2 at a time...
2007-02-15 00:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by Meme 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could clearly be infatuaction. On the other hand, you may not be truly happy with your marriage, or there wouldn't be the loop hole to let yourself have feelings for someone else. If you want to save your marriage, you should get counceling to have a professional help you sort out your feelings. Otherwise, you may be in quite the termoil down the road. Good luck.
2007-02-14 23:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to love two people at the same time. This is a combination for distruction but it is possible. You should never act on those feelings though because you are a married woman!
2007-02-14 23:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋