We've been together 3 yrs, we have a good relationship we know we are going to be together we've even talked about having a baby what is his hang up, He is the one!
2007-02-14 15:15:52 · 14 answers · asked by BLUE EYES 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have kids and has 1 he has been hurt alot, but he knows wihout a doubt I wont ever hurt him, his idea to have a baby he's o.k to have one without being married I'm not, we have been friends fo 10 years
2007-02-14 15:31:13 · update #1
Maybe he's taking other things into consideration besides just loving you... are you guys financially stable enough to go into a marriage?
2007-02-14 15:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honey, in this day and age with the divorce rate as high as it is, it's not uncommon for young people to avoid getting married. Don't rush it. If he's the one, he's going to be there when the time is right. It may not be right for him right now. men think differently than women. He's thinking the expense of the wedding, the drama that surrounds it and the way his buddies have him convinced his life is going to change. If he's the one, and I mean truly the one...it will happen. However, if you are questioning it, please don't think that a baby is going to speed up the process. Nine times out of ten, those cases end up in divorce. A baby won't bring you closer together, nor will it make you feel more committed to him. It actually adds stress to a relationship. Babies aren't suppose to be born with a job (being the reason to get married), babies are suppose to be born out of love....think about that.
2007-02-14 15:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've talked about having a baby? I hope when you're married, not when you're just courting. Don't pressure him, three years hasn't been enough for him obviously. What's your hurry? I suggest you have a baby AFTER you are married a couple of years. It's for the kid's sake only, most people get divorced these days and the kids always get the short end of the stick because they have irresponsible parents. Be patient and quit nagging him to marry you.
2007-02-14 15:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You start running. That is, tell him that 3 years is a long time to wait for an answer. The question: "When are we going to get married?" Tell him you want a commitment before you decide to have his child. Tell him if he's not ready to make such a commitment then maybe you should move-on to someone who is willing to commit and love you like he should be loving you. Maybe he just doesn't love you, just likes the freebies of the girlfriend.
2007-02-14 15:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my soon to be hubby for 3 years and we are just now getting married. Is it possible that he could be scared of divorce..has he been through one..or commitment? Some people are such afraid to commit because they think that things will change. Have you ask him? I would talk with him and tell him that if he knows your the one as you do him then you see no reason to wait any longer. Good luck!
2007-02-14 15:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
According to my mum, all guys never want to get married. They like to stay boyfriend-girlfriend. In fact, she only got him to propose by giving him an ultimatum that if he didn't propose by the end of the year she was going to push off and find a new, more committed guy. I think guys just like to be in a relationship and still keep their um bachelorhood, so why buy the cow when you can get the milk free?
2007-02-14 15:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Marriage changes everything so don't be in such a hurry. There's nothing worse than waking up and finding out that you've made the most expensive mistake of your life.
2007-02-14 15:30:02 · answer #7 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of girls/women want to get married, but you shouldnt get married or push marriage on him if he is not ready for it. Definitely, dont get pregnant before getting married because people may think you HAD to get married because your pregnant. AND he'd have everything he wanted without the commitment!!
2007-02-14 15:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by michelles_sfa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend may be right, don't rush into anything. You are just boyfriend and girlfriend now, still having fun. But once you get married, it is a whole different thing. But I wish you luck when you do get married.
2007-02-14 15:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a male's point of getting married is a big deal. maybe he isn't ready yet? alot of things out though your head, is she the one? can I afford a wedding ? can I afford a baby? .... If you want a quick answer , get down on your knee and ask him...
2007-02-14 15:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by impactonland 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋