Ok, me and my twin sister are 13. And we're super duper close and like best friends. But like a couple days ago, she told me that she thought she was pregnant so we went and got a book about pregnancy and a couple pregnancy tests. All of them tested positive and she has almost all the month 1 symptoms. I don't know what to do, because like she trusts me not to tell my parents and I couldn't like defy her trust. And don't tell me my sister is too young to be having sex and etc. and that she's a ****. Cause she was pressured to do it and she didn't want to. But please, I don't know what to do.
2007-02-14 15:09:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Your parents need to know and know immediately. There are many things that can go wrong with a pregnancy and your sister needs immediate medical prenatal care. You need to either convince her to tell your parents or do it yourself for her own good. They are going to figure it out eventually anyway so sooner is better in the case of a pregnancy. If she is really scared, find an adult you both trust - clergyman, school counselor, pregnancy counseling, a family friend or relative and ask them for help in telling your parents. Sometimes a third party there can help defuse a volatile situation.
I know it is hard because you feel like you are betraying her but you obviously love her dearly and you don't want anything bad to happen to her. She needs counseling and help NOW. You are doing the best thing for her by getting her that help. She wouldn't have told you if she didn't want the help.
Please, please do this for her and do it right away.
2007-02-14 15:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by mnnorthernlight 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Pressured to do it and not wanting to and voicing that during sex makes it RAPE. You need to tell your parents and you need to make sure that the male who forced your sister is prosecuted. He also needs to step up and help pay for the abortion or medical costs if she decides to have the child and give it up for adoption. (Please note that I am not even considering a 13 year old keeping a baby an option).
I know you don't want to defy your sisters trust, but this is very important. She needs the support of your whole family and the support of adults right now. They need to know what is going on so that she can get the proper care and decide how to deal with this mess.
Just throwing this out there but if you need a loving, stable family to help out and take the baby, drop me a line. Hubby and I are having a difficult time conceiving (so frustrating that a 13 yo can and I can't!!!).
Anyway, stay strong and make sure you are there for her. She is going through a tough time and will need everyone's help. Good luck!
2007-02-15 13:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off calm down. This will be okay. If she was truly pressured into having sex that is a whole other story- its called rape. About the baby. Mom and Dad need to know now. Oh yes, they are going to be quite upset. It is only natural-remember your sister is only 13. Next, everyone needs to remember the baby and do what is BEST for this child. Your sister need to start on prenatal vitamins and see an OB/GYN as soon as possible. The health of her and the baby are top priority. Everyone needs to take a step back and breath and work together. You all can deal with this. I will be praying for you, your sister and the unborn baby!
2007-02-15 00:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by Bridget5493 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's okay - this happens to many people. If you think your parents will freak out then tell an adult that can help you and your sis tell your parents. Otherwise they should be told. And no matter how they act afterwards it was the right thing to do. Also, as unpopular as this may be to some, you should act quickly in case your sister and parents decide they do not want to have the baby. Thirteen is so young and there are other options. If you still want to handle this on your own you should contact your town's free women's clinic - even small towns have one. They will check out your sis for cheap and give her all of her options.
2007-02-15 03:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by GranolaGurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your parents need to know ASAP. you need to tell your sister that she needs to tell them or you will. If she gets mad..oh well she will get over it but if you dont tell your parents then chances are she wont start going to the doctors and taking the vitamins she needs to be taking.
Because she is only 13 some doctors might see her pregnancy as high risk (meaning there is potential problems for her and the baby.)
...think about it. would you rather have your sister be a little mad at you for informing your parents on something that they will find out anyways (maybe when its too late and there is already a problem) or would you rather tell them and get her the attention that is ABSOLUTLY NEEDED by a doctor so that her and the baby can be as healthy as possible.
2007-02-15 02:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her tell your parents.. i know how u feel i am a twin..and my sister is my best friend and i have had to shut my mouth about thing too, but acted like she never ever told me it was up too her and some time i felt sad for her but thats all part of growing up..
Hope she keeps the baby because it is so much fun been a mother sometimes
good luck
2007-02-15 07:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by aussie_female1981 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sooner you guys tell your parents the better! She needs medical attention, an abortion is expiring if that is an option, if adoption is an option you need to notify the adoption people. She needs ultrasounds, prenatal vitamins, etc! Although this is terrifying for the two of you, it will be done eventually and the sooner the better...
Also... I don't want to know the situation where a 13 year old gets pregnant...
2007-02-15 07:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing for you to do if you and your sister is really close as you think then you need to convince her ASAP to tell your parents because in a couple months there gonna know wen she start showin well good luck to the both of yall.
2007-02-15 00:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by Pooh Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes a lucky sister to have you but unfortunately you both are also very young and need help. You need to talk to someone who can help hopefully for you both its your parents but maybe its a teacher or adult friend. Your sister needs to be checked out by a professional to ensure her health is ok. You may have to upset your sister to get help but it is better however why not try and persuade her to ask for help herself first. take care of yourself and wish your sister the best
2007-02-18 18:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by mombro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that she must tell your parents or an adult. She needs to take prenatal vitamins and needs to see a doctor to make sure she and the baby are healthy. She must do it now their is no time to waste, make sure she isn't taking any medicine or smoking/alcohol it could really harm the baby. You might both be scared but it is something that you can't hide. Good luck to you both!
2007-02-15 00:01:19 · answer #10 · answered by junecleaver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋