My mom and her "boyfriend" are fighting again (not fist, words) and i'm pretty tired of it. Should I stand up and help my mom or let them work it out. QF: Boyfriend has a jealousy problem and my mom hasn't dated anyone in like 5 years.
(i'm 15)
2007-02-14 15:06:57 · 14 answers · asked by Ilonzo M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should definately stay out of it for now, but I would totally suggest that you talk to your mother in private as soon as possible.
I would also suggest that you run down and get a copy of "The 10 stupid things women do to mess up their lives" and either read it before you give it to her, or ask her if you and she can read it together.
You don't need a "boyfriend" like she's got, and neither does she.
Good luck!
2007-02-14 15:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey I am so sorry this is happening to you. I would not get involved in the fight. It could cause more problems for you and your mom. When they fight, can you go to a friends house?
When you are alone with your mom, talk to her. Tell her how the fighting makes you feel. Be open and honest.
If your talk doesn't help things, maybe you need to go stay with someone else for a while. It doesn't sound like this is a healthy relationship that your mom is in and you shouldn't be forced to live in it. Good luck and keep your chin up.
2007-02-14 15:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Holly C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about whats on ur mind. Yes she is an adult and should have every right to what makes her happy (or think she is happy in life) but should respect what you think as well. If your really curious (and not scared) ask what another outsider thinks. Someone else, preferably one of ur moms friends ,who sees the two of them together and get them to talk to ur mom. Good luck also, compliment her everyday. give her the self-esteem boost. she can use it
2007-02-14 15:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by luv_hun_nay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remind your mom that you live there too. throw the bum out, and tell your mom that words hurt just as badly as fists, worse actually because a bruise heals quickly and a battered mind some times lasts forever!
2007-02-15 01:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by Billie R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmy mom and her "boyfriend" did this for 7 years and he hated all my friends, anyways let them work it out because if u get involved in the future they will want u to help again after awhile u get used to it dont worry
2007-02-14 15:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by female football player 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for your mother. Tell your mom how the fighting makes you feel. she should get rid of him.
2007-02-14 15:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking your mom about it. Tell her that it's beginning to affect you. I'm sure she'll find a way about her relationship with her "boyfriend."
2007-02-14 15:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Charmaine * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom and tell her to stand up for herself. He can't hurt you so you can go tell him whatever you want. If it gets serious, call the police.
2007-02-14 15:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to your mom tell her that it realy upsets you to hear them fight like that and maybe she will think of what it is doing to you . I know it worked for my kids .It realy hit home for me try it if she is like me I thought of what it was doing to my kids and not me . GOOD LUCK MOST KIDS ALWAYS TRY TO MAKE THEIR MOM SEE BOTH SIDES OF THE FANCE AND TO WEIGH OUT THE PRO'S AND CON'S OF IT FOR ALL . GOOD LUCK
2007-02-14 15:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you have to put up with that. I feel for you.
Try not to meddle though, it's not worth the risk of getting them mad at you on top of their problems.
2007-02-14 15:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by Gee Wye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋