My husband gets off work at 9pm. Since it's Valentines Day, he said he would try to get off at 8:30, so we can go out and get a drink. Well, he called at quarter to 9 from work stating he was unable to get off work early. I suggested that we celebrate V Day on his off day. He insist that we still go out. Well at 10pm, he calls from one of his friends house (sounding like he was drinking) stating that we wont do anything tonight and we will just celebrate tomorrow (when he is off). My question is, should I mad because I was tired and really didn't want to go anywhere. Although, I feel since it's V Day, he should have come home and at least spent time with me even if we didn't go anywhere.
2007-02-14 14:49:36 · 23 answers · asked by blue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Getting mad will not solve anything. But let him know he hurt your feelings because you expected him to come home based on what he told you.
2007-02-14 14:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by HoustonTexan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you are upset but just let him unwind tonight and then go out with him some other night. Enjoy the time that you do go out with him for celebration and love him for him. Romance his socks off of him when you do see him and jump on him when get gets home and give him a BIG hug and kiss and tell him how much you missed him and how much you love him and say Happy Valentines day Honey. This will make his day and be a great present for him.
2007-02-14 15:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't be mad. At least he called and aknowledged that you guys would celebrate another time. What is there to celebrate? Everyday should be Valentine's Day and it's a selfish, petty day. Who really cares? My husband told me he loved me today and that was the best gift a girl could get everyday of the year. Why is it that anniversaries and hallmark holidays are always another birthday party for the women? Why don't we pay more attention to our guys?
2007-02-14 15:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband did call you letting you know that he wasn't able to be off work early, so that made it okay with you. It looks like he wanted to go out, but you didn't. So, he knew that you didn't want to go out, so that's probably why he went to his friends house for some drinks, because you wanted to celebrate on his day off. So the arrangements sounded okay with the both of you, so why be upset about it? I don't see why you should be mad when he is the one who wanted to do something. You just wanted to stay home. Yeah, instead of him going to his buddies house, he should have come home to be with you, but he didn't because it seemed already okay with him.
Or, are you mad because you didn't get your way or are you mad because he didn't come home? Either way, you ended up being mad with what he did or didn't do.
2007-02-14 15:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to be mad. But you do need to be concerned...both for yourself and your marriage. It sounds like you two are disconnected. You don't feel the rhythm of the other and accept and understand. You had expectations that he didn't meet, most likely because you two have not really created a strong, deep connection within your marriage. He acted irresponsibly, and you are feeling that you don't know what to do with the information. When you both are not tired and perhaps drunk, begin a series of discussions aimed at sorting out just what you want in the marriage. And remember, if both of you treat the other like he is living his last days on earth, then both of you will feel loved.
2007-02-14 15:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by Amy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be mad since it was he who wanted to do something tonight in the first place, regardless of not getting off early. He went elsewhere, and didn't even invite you. He chose to drink with a friend rather than his mate. At least he called at 10.
Hold him to your night out tomorrow, and make sure you have a good time, regardless if he does.
2007-02-14 15:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by TopCatt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Little problems. Don't be stressed out. I'd be pretty mad, but this is how to act properly. First of all, call him at his friends house and pick him up. Drinking and driving is horrible.
And ask him why didn't he come home to spend time with you. Guys aren't extremly senstivite to women's feelings and wishes of romance. He probably didn't know that you wanted to be with him so much, and remember guys aren't experts at romance.
2007-02-14 14:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Positively!!!! Sounds like he'd rather spent Valentines day with friends than with you. I'd refuse to celebrate tomorrow. The special day is already gone.
2007-02-14 14:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by JR 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be more upset than mad.
It isn't very nice to stop at a friend's house for a drink when he could of come home to see you and had a quiet drink.
Men will be men though - we love em and hate em
2007-02-14 14:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He screwed up. Yes you have a right to be hurt, which has a tendency to turn into anger. Remain calm so that you're able to let him know the cycle your emotions have taken you. He wont understand, but give it your best shot anyway.
2007-02-14 15:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋