I'm trying hard as I can to find my life and finally get out on my own with a great job and my own place. Problem is I've got so many road blocks and crap in the way. That and I'm sick of trying and failing. That's not even the half of it tho. I'm a great friend and advisor to my friends who are in needs like mine and worse girls going through or surviving after breakups, guys confused about love and life and all sorts of situations I try to help each one through. Yet I'm not getting much of that in return but that's ok at least they're trying. I'm tired of being Dr. Phill to every one and not getting some Dr. Philling back my way if you get my drift. I feel so drained. Sorry for rambling on but any advice or oppinions are appreciated. Thanks all.
2007-02-14 14:42:01 · 17 answers · asked by dave_83501 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thanks you all very much. I like some of your answers alot. I'm working through all this. And yes my friends do listen and try to offer advice and it helps but well failure sucks. I know this will all pass and I'll probably laugh about it some day but right now well it just sucks and I'm just getting it all out. Thanks for the advice so far. gonna be really tough picking a best answer. To those who wish to contact me please see my yahoo 360 page for more info thanks.
2007-02-14 15:55:00 · update #1
DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Please dont stop trying cos i promise you it can all get better!
I suffered from Depression for 3 years and got through it on my own without medication so it really is possible to stop feeling like this. You poor thing, i just wanna hug you and promise you it will be ok.
I dont want to blurt my whole story out on here but if youd like to chat, my email and IM is available here.
And if not, then i urge you to reevaluate some of your priorities as a start.
Hang in there ok, you are so worth it.
2007-02-14 14:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it as a challenge, that's life, ups n downs...and never expect anything in return when ur willing to help out, that way u won't feel like what ur feeling now. The problem might not be te road block to whatever ur achieving bt urself perhaps? Try to figure out what went wrong and from there, u are actually gaining experience. I've encountered what u've said bt now am doing pretty well...actually move to another country and live on my own and making good money at the same time...now am only lack of a good partner...sigh! One more thing, be happy, and u will figure a way out...cos if ur unhappy...u will never try anything and move on.
2007-02-14 14:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by DooGie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, i know how u feel, i soughta went throught the same thing recently. U need to b positive cos, it doesnt last 4 ever, something will happen, and u'll feel heaps better. I think u really need to talk to ur friends, because they can help u, but first u have to be open. I admit, sometimes it feels like no one cares but they do, its just that they have to concentrate on their lives for a bit. And that trying and failing, i really know how that feels, the best thing u can do, is take up something, it doesn't matter wat age u r, just try something and get good at it. That way when people say, wat can u do, or wats ur hobby, u can proudly answer it, and even when u do fail at something, just go home and do that thing ur good at, andit will make u feel heaps better. Feeling bad isnt like any normal sickness that just goes away, it does need some work, and time to get over it. But eventually u'll think, "why am i even sad?" and and in that moment, it all goes away.
2007-02-14 14:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Grannypa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to release your feelings if noone out there will listen to you try hiring a phsycologist. If you cant do that try talking to someone else close to you it aint good having bottled up feelings. Another thing is that you sound like a perfect phsycologist ever thought of taking courses to a phsycologist job? . One more thing maybe one day go somewhere secluded and empty and just spend the whole day there and why not give a scream or two. It really helpes me.
hope i helped
xoxMoeisha
2007-02-14 14:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by Moeisha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have always tried to be there for everyone around me but when I need them they are otherwise engaged. So, It's your life take charge and follow your own advise get out and get busy. We are only as alone and lonely as we let ourselves be. To every obstacle there is a way around it. You can see what and where you need to focus. I know it is hard to do it alone and with out the help and support of those you have been there for but Hey, that's life. People are a bit selfish. So be strong and do it. You will be happier in the long run because you did it your self and no one can take that or put it down.
2007-02-14 14:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by collinbarnette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying. Keep being good to your friends and listening to their problems even though they don't listen to yours. Karma will catch up with them eventually. As for your own stuff, it's like that phrase "it has to get worse before it gets better" or something like that. It is sometimes hard to make it on your own, especially when it seems like everything's turning out wrong.
But you'd be surprised how good things can turn out in the end.
2007-02-14 14:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a mental health nursing student-BUT Im no eXpert at this...RIGHT! I wont give you the "get your act together B***S***!"
If you go and see your GP he will prescribe you something. Go for counselling aswell to let it all out. Sometimes we can confuse deep sadness which can be forgotten about or dealt with by crying your head off to depression. So ps cry on someones shoulder. watch you dont become dependent on antidepressants as they can be a P.I.T.A**e!! Ask for Cognitive Behavioural therapy aswell as this might be good.
GOOD LUCK!!!
Good luck buddy hope you feel beter soonish!!!
2007-02-14 14:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by kitzach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you are depressed. It is hard listening to other peoples problems and helping them especially when you have problems yourself. Hang in there things will get better. Keep you chin up and keep trying. Talk to one of your closer friends and let them know what u are going through one on one maybe they can help, if they realize how depressed you are.
2007-02-14 14:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by chemky1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is hard sometimes... heck... life is hard period. but anything good in life take hard work and thats what you are doing.
as for your friends... some people just arent very good at giving advice.
2007-02-14 14:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by runningballerina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because you're always helping them they don't realise you need help too. Have you had a good chat with any of them explaining your situation?
2007-02-14 14:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by homer28b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋