or damageing ?
2007-02-14 14:39:44 · 13 answers · asked by Say-- 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Valentine's day is the stupidest excuse for a holiday. Why flowers, candy, and jewelry one day when everyone else is doing the same thing? It's a petty holiday. It's a holiday where women think they should be the center of attention AGAIN by getting presents that don't mean anything, and a bunch of attention. It's stupid. Why don't we do anything for our guys? Anniversaries, and v-day is just another birthday party for women, it's ridiculous. If you think buying materialistic crap on a hallmark holiday is helpful to a long term marriage, you are sadly mistaken.
Why shouldn't everyday be like February 14th? Why one day a year when we supposedly aknowledge "love" by buying flowers, candy, and diamonds? If anyone can argue with this, then you're selfish, childish, and need to steer clear of the marriage route.
Why don't you women ever do anything for the man in your life?
2007-02-14 15:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, Valentine's Day is a Hallmark holiday. Sure, it's nice to celebrate...just like every other holiday, but if you are using this as a measuring stick for how much your significant other truly cares about you, then I'd consider it damaging. Love is suppose to be felt everyday, not just on February 14th. I've been married 18 yrs. Today, other than wishing each other "Happy Valentine's Day", we didn't celebrate valentine's day. It's not because we don't love each other, it's because we both had to work, making sure the kids got their valentine's was more important...we'll celebrate on the weekend. But, truth be told, we know we love each other evvery day and we are just using this as an excuse to get a sitter and go out. When you've been married a long time and have a hectic life and five children, you don't get to go out very often.....So for us, it's a blessing in disguise. Which in my life, makes it an added bonus, not damaging.
2007-02-14 23:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, i am happily married in my early 20's and i am 40 now, and i can say that we beleive as a couple that we do not need a day to celebrate our love, we show it every day, we have great communication, and my husband does little things for me all year through, ie; occasionally, serve me breakfast in bed, occasionaly clean the whole house if i am out shopping/running errands, when he see's i have had a hard day he will run a bubble bath for me, sometimes he will attempt to make supper, etc.. etc...little things like that, BUT that being said today for instance we had a nice dinner and chattted, but it was no different then last week when we did the same thing,
when we were dating 20 years ago on valentines he set up picnics in the house but again he did that on newyears day also and a couple of times last year, i have never received on valentines day flowers/chocolates/jewelery etc...not because my husband was cheap because he is not, at christmas he spoils me rotten with gift galour, but because love is to be celebrated all year through, and almost 20 years later we are holding strong, as for myself, and i do mean myself personally i do not need to celebrate valentines day to be helpfull to my longterm marriage, i need love, communication and support all year long,
i have never felt if i would not get flowers or a gift it would be damaging to my relationship, although for a lot of people or couples society has put the thought in the minds of people, if you do not give something you are doomed, valentines can be a very stressing day for a lot of couples who allow it to be,
but if you feel that a gift is what is needed, then may i suggest a more romantic jester or the traditional routine of flowers etc, there is nothing wrong about getting gifts on valentines day or being extra romantic, if you think it will help make things better, and for a lot of couple's thats what is needed
2007-02-14 23:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by dragonfly2dreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happily married (well most of the time :-) and I do not celebrate Valentines day at all. I just don't believe that you need a day to go out to dinner, spend time together, make love, etc. If you are already doing that...you should have a long and happy marriage.
2007-02-14 23:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by blue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It helps if the couple does it. It's not damaging if they don't either. If a marriage is good, celebrating or not is irrelevant.
2007-02-15 02:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it really matters, if you have a good marriage most days are like valentines days!
2007-02-14 22:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damaging for most relationships these days.
People, especially women, have set too many expectations for their significant other for Valentine's Day.
2007-02-14 22:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not really.
For me everyday is Valentines Day if your spouse treat you nicely all year long rather than waiting for that day to come which is once a year. Don't you think so.
2007-02-14 22:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by Cathy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel it is very helpful and is like the glue that keeps marriages together and fun and keeps bringing romance and ideas to it to keep it alive and fun!
2007-02-14 22:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is helpful. It gives us a chance to take at least one day to remind our loved ones that we do indeed love them; Even if we don't take the time say it or show it everyday.
2007-02-14 22:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋