What do you think of this...?

Question

I recently met a woman ironically on this site. We developed an instant chemisty and after a short time, well we fell in love without ever meeting each other. I was convinced she was "it". Well a few days ago, it was revealed to me that she, while her personality, humor, pics, etc, were her, the background information she gave me was not accurate. Not really close to it...she went from being 27, never married, no kids to divorced, older with a son.

I am still talking to her, and I still love her but not as strongly as I did. But I am trying to see if I can get back to the point that all the ideas and dreams and feelings I had about "us" are what they were before I got hit with this, because that was as good as it ever got for me, period, in 29 years, the time we spent talking before this. So seeing that makes me think it is worth it, but I am not 100% sure... So what does that make me?

Answer 1

it makes you a robot.

Answer 2

I am sorry that you are going through what you are. Anybody can get on here and feed you a whole fairyland book of lies. Thats why having relationships over the internet is not good. This is my opinion. I would never try it. People tend to become who they want instead of being what they are. You have to be very careful. If she lied to you what makes you sure that she is not lying about anything else? I would use extreme caution. You are not less of a person if you don't feel the same way. She lied to you and as far as that goes she made u lose her trust. Good luck

Answer 3

i don't know if you can fall in love over the net.you might like someone a lot and enjoy talking to them.you might also get on very good with them on the net.love is a very strong word and a very strong feeling and should not be taken lightly.to many ppl use it to freely and easily and it looks like your finding that out the hard way.i think you need to meet some one and build up a relaitionship first before you can love them and they you.a lie is a lie.ppl dont realise how much damage lies can do even over the net.some ppl just don't stop and think others are just #@*&&^%*&&^$#@ and do it on purpose.so what's that make you?a fool.you asked.i think your more in love with an "ideal"than the actual person.

Answer 4

disappointed i would imagine. since you have not met this woman in person, it can be said you fell in love with the idea of her. a trust betrayed is a hard pill to swallow...and the fact that she misrepresented herself indicates she has esteem issues or worse it's a romantic scam. you can at your own risk, continue to meet people on line, but do not invest emotionally into this behavior. use a legitimate singles service or give the old fashioned way a try...go out and meet people. lonely people can sometimes say and do things to boost themselves up in the eyes, minds and hearts of others. i think you are looking for love in the wrong place. but don't give up on finding it.

Answer 5

Being divorced with three kids at 30, I was nervous about telling a guy about the kids. Who would give me a second look after hearing about three kids? I can understand her lying about kids.. even though I never actually did and I am married again :-) BUT, Why would she lie about so many other things? The bottom line is can you trust her?

Answer 6

I know that this is not what you want to hear at all, but you don't love her. You love the idea of her. You don't know her. You can't really know someone until you've met them in real life and shared experiences with them, good or bad. Also, she started this relationship with you with huge lies about who she is- I don't know if I'd ever be able to truly trust someone like that.

So here's what you do- meet her in person. Then you can say whether or not you love her. Until then, you're good friends.

Like I said, I know you don't want to hear this advice, but trust me, I know what I'm talking about. I met my husband online. I know you have real, serious feelings for her, but it honestly can't be love yet. If you can forgive the lies and move forward, meet her in real life asap. That's the only way to know for sure what you're dealing with here. Good luck.

Answer 7

If she lied to you about that, there could be a lot of other things she has lied about. Have you met her in person yet? If you want your relationship to keep going, you might want to find out why she lied to you in the first place, and ask yourself if you can really trust her again. If she's going to lie about everything, that's not a good person to be with.

Answer 8

Chicks that lie off the bat are not worth it. No matter how much she sweet talks you just cut it off. Its easy for her to lie about huge things like marraige and kids...it will always make you wonder. You can never go back on something as dishonest as that. You;ll always be questioning her. Let her go.

Answer 9

Very Lucky. Deception is not a good way to start a relationship. She should have taken her chances and told you the truth in the first place.
This is how predators attract people.

Answer 10

Well, I think we both know the answer to that.

If she lied to you in the beginning, there is no foundation upon which to build anything for the future.

Go out into the *real* world. There are a LOT of women out there who are honest, nice and single. Don't settle for a liar. Nothing good will come of it.♥

Good luck...

Answer 11

Yeah I'm going through the same thing your going through to. Its just hard to believe the person on he other end of the computer is who they say they are. Then I read stories like this and it doesnt help. I'm just very skeptical about it.
I just pray she is who she says she is.