My ex was mentally and physical abusive, and I have stated all through the divorce and custody hearing that he is not safe arround our 6 yr old son, but they still gave him 50/50 custody. In Dec of 2006 we went through a CNA,and that still did nothing. We just went before the judge since we could not come to a parenting agreement, I once again asked that he be drug tested and the judge said she could not entertain that idea. Just looking at him you can see that there is something wrong with him. I was told by my attorney that I would have to back up my accusation. How do I do that? I am not rich, I can't afford to have him followed to his next drug buy. I am so afraid of what kind of danger he is putting our son in. What do I do? What ever happen to the best intrest of the child? What would a drug test hurt? Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-14 14:21:20 · 10 answers · asked by TNA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that your best bet from experience is to use, if any, any type of documentation of him being in the hospital for the drug use, any type of prescription antidepressiants, any type of physchological counsiling, anything of that sort. Take a look at how many times he's moved that would make him flighty if he's moved alot. Is he living with a new female at all? that would be an unstable environment for him to be in. You want to show instability in the house hold you want to use any and all prescrition drugs against him. If theres any of this get copies of it. Show that the household is unstable. Any type of instability that you can prove that way would work the best instead of trying to prove that he uses illegal drugs.
2007-02-14 14:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by Darrell V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely have to prove to the courts he is not "fit" to be around your son. Do you know any of his so called friends that he would make a "connection with and possibly when, and if so do you have a friend you can really trust to possibly get a picture of your ex buying /using drugs. Or if you know where and who he is going to meet and you have a camera where you can get a decent picture of him doing this stuff, then maybe once you have pics your attorney will help you get full custody.
2007-02-14 14:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to court and have it ordered that he take a drug test. Have him prove himself in this matter. Since he was not safe then you need to prove that he is not fit to have your child so much. BUT like i said this needs to be proven. Have social services check him out if need be. Has he been to drug rehab. If not and you can prove he has and is still doing the drugs then that may be court ordered as well. Talk to your lawyer about all of this and see what they can do to help you in this matter and what advice they can give you. I am sorry to say you have to be able to prove it somehow or it will never stick and be ordered.
2007-02-14 14:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you suspect that your ex husband is dealing with drugs or using them, then you can call the police telling them that you would like to remain anonymous and let them know that he could possibly be dealing or using it with a 6 year old inside the home. Otherwise, you could turn him in, or you can call a drug hotline for questions on how to have him arrested.
Don't be afraid to do this, your son is in danger and you neet to do what it takes to get him out. Otherwise, call social services so they can help you. And get yourself another lawyer, seems like he doesn't know what he/she is doing. I think you can hire a detective that can follow every move he makes, but you will have to have some money to do that. Or call your local police to aswers.
2007-02-14 14:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the sneaky side of things, if you know when he buys his drugs, call in a report of suspicious behavior where he's picking them up at. You can have your dr testify. If there's some type of abuse that you know of, take your child to the ER even if it's something minor, just so that it's documented. then re- present your case to another judge. Go to public assistance, call around to lawyer office and see if some are doing probono work.
2007-02-14 16:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by brandyswilkes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the drug test. and keep taking him back to court untill you get full custody of your son.
2007-02-14 15:17:33 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u feel there is something wrong and u want ur son to be safe.. Do what ever is u can to keep him safe... Refuse to let him come and see ur child..
2007-02-14 14:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a new judge. maybe your son can testify, i know it's traumatic, but if it keeps him safe then it is worth it. or you can wait, eventually he will end up in the hospital from an overdose and you won't need proof, it will already be there.
2007-02-14 14:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
report anything that happens while your son is with him to child services...look for brusing and things of that nature when he comes back...eventually something is bound to happen. just document it all. phone calls, meetings, everything. good luck and i hope your son is ok.
2007-02-14 14:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is he employed. Do they drug test there, as many places do. Justa thought.
2007-02-14 14:41:07 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋