Around my house whenever my parents or my brother or I fight about anything, it always blows up into a huge fight because everyone has such a high stress level. It's pretty tense, and most of the time we are all walking on eggshells. The thing that worries me is I have a very thin skin and I cry often (on average about once a night). When I was little and I cried my parents would comfort me and bring me something to drink and things like that. They don't do that anymore, and are usually very short with me when I cry ("What the hell are you crying about, you have no reason to be crying, stop being so dramatic," etc) and lately I've been craving that sort of attention again to a frightening degree. I sometimes pretend that I'm little and they're taking care of me and this only makes me feel neglected. I've looked up some information on psychological regression, but most of it is only about hypnosis and the like. Could someone help me or please give me tips to stop this sort of behaviour?
2007-02-14 14:12:50 · 6 answers · asked by Amanda 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
(The high stress level is most likely due to school for my brother and work related activities for my parents. As far as I know, they aren't having any martial problems.)
2007-02-14 14:14:25 · update #1
It's ashame that your parent's don't seem to be giving you the emotional support you need right now. Being 14 you really do still need it(some people think if you are a boy that when you are 13-14 you should"grow up"). Have you thought about getting a puppy or another pet that you could care for(if you get one make sure you take care of it).
2007-02-14 14:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by ralahinn1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents probably don't realize how badly this constant fighting is effecting you ....they should, but maybe with all the other worries they are not seeing what is right in front of them...I grew up in a house full of constant bickering and upset....not at me...but with everything and anything.....and I know how horrible and hard it is.....I seen where another poster suggested counseling..if you could get your parents to agree to it this probably would be the best bet...with mine..they would have never agreed.......if this is the case...maybe you could try talking to your parents...wait for a calm moment in your house than just tell them you are under a lot of stress ,having a hard time right now and the bickering is really hurting you....like I said they may not realize just what a negative effect this is having on you...for my parents it seem like a way of life and they didn't see much wrong with it.....just keep you head up...remember this is one short period in your life and it will not be forever...that's what kept me going...and life did get a whole lot better.....
If you can't talk with your parents maybe a grandparent could help you out.......
by the way, your age and the crying is pretty normal...your body is going through changes right now..hormones are out of whack....this part will get better.......but it will take a little time....just keep you head up and know better days is ahead......
2007-02-14 15:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by LeftField360 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately that's growing up. Just stop crying or at least don't do it around them and soon they will wish YOU were young again and had somebody to cheer up. Stay out of the house, and get a part time job this will secure your independance and give yu money to dothings while your not at the home you dislike so much. :)cheer up
2007-02-22 12:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by burd p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having deep emotional struggles with yourself and you're scared about the fact that you cry too much, then I'm just going to tell you that your not alone and that your not a baby for wanting to cry. When I feel alone or emotionally hurt, then I go to the Bible and let God talk to me and it comforts me to know that he's there.
2007-02-22 12:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without intending to offend you, It sounds like you are the most normal of the lot. My strong suggestion is that your entire family go in for counseling. Even if you can't get your family to go, go yourself. Even try talking to your school counselor. No household should be like you are describing and it is not good for your well being.
2007-02-14 14:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find answers to your problems in the bible
http://www.blueletterbible.org/index.html
2007-02-19 15:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by PRINCESS Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋