Isn't this rude?

Question

My husband works nights as a server in a local fine dining restaurant. He works for minimum wage plus tips. It's the tips though, that pay for our bills, the 4 to 5 hour shift at minimum wage is hardly a paycheck.
Anyway
We are friends with this couple. They are both in higher paying jobs than we are. She's an RN and he's a Physical Therapist. They know that my husband works for tips.
When we go out to restaurants together, they are sooo critical of the servers. They are bossy, demanding and rude the whole time. After all that, they refuse to tip well, even if the service was perfect. They say to us, "If they want better pay, they should get better paying jobs." The most I've seen them tip voluntarily is 10%, at a very high end restaurant. We usually split the bill in half when we go out, so they always make a big fuss when they see how much we tip.
Like I said before, they KNOW that's how our bills are paid.
Isn't that disrespectful to us?
Would you say something to them?

Glad to hear we aren't the only ones that think like that!
The biggest problem is with these people is that they've never had to have a job like this before. They came from families that supported them financially until they were finished with college and had a well paying job. They've never had to rely on their talents and the kindness of others to pay their bills before.

Answer 1

I totally agree with you on this being rude. I also feel that they carry no respect for your situation or feelings. I myself have worked as a waitress and have dealt with these types of people. My best advice to you would be to keep them as friends to one aspect, but don't go out to dinner with them anymore. And if they ask why, tell them the truth. Because they are to rude, disrespectful and to demanding of others. Maybe they should change places and walk in your/there shoes.

Answer 2

This sort of behavior is not only extremley rude, it's insulting. If they know your husband is a server, and they make it a point to say things like this to you they might not be the type of people you should want to be friends with. Or they could be trying, in their own twisted way to encourage your husband to get what they consider a more respectable form of income. Either way I would definitley say something next time such as, "well, [insert hubby's name here] knows how hard servers work for their tips and we like to show our appreciation for their efforts." Or, over dinner, you could go on and on about how the last time you were at the doctor's office this completley annoying nurse couldn't even take your blood pressure correctly and how the medical field is full of underqualified, over paid morons...taste their own medicine...good luck!

Answer 3

It is very rude. If you really want to tell them how you fell, do it. I would, but I also let them know that they should respect all people no matter how much they earn, where they come from, or if they have the best education. Don't go out with them any more and look for friends who respect people in general. I dated a guy like that. he was a snob, and I let him know he was. later, he tried tomake admends, but I was not wasting my time. he should have knew better.

Answer 4

I can understand the fact they tiping little money but they Don't have to be rude about how the servers are not doing their job or if they want money they should get more paying job. They are being rude.

Answer 5

omg! that is disrespectful. I think they are aware of the fact and are just being really condescending. i wouldnt say something to them bc i am such a chicken but i would associate with them a lot. when i do associate i would somehow try to insinuate that they are cheap.

Answer 6

I wouldn't say anything to them, I would just invite them IN next time rather than going out. You know how they are with service providers, don't be a party to it.

Answer 7

It's disrespectful. No, I wouldn't say anything. I would simply not go to a restaurant with them.