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My wife have been married for one year today, been together almost 4... My sexual experience is somewhat limited ( about 6 total partners in my life), while she has been with ( according to her) about 32 or so.. we only have sex about once every month or two ( her choice) , and she complains that it just doesnt last long enough( between 10 - 15 minutes, give or take)
i keep telling her that it takes practice and work, but she seems to think its like a bicycle, you never forget.. she never wants to try out anything new, but gripes that we have "boring sex".. she even criticizes my "size" ( i think i'm pretty normal)
am i an idiot, or what? hell, here it is, our first anniversary AND Valentines, and she'd rather sit next door and smoke weed.... i set out candles, incense, and Barry White.. and she's not even interested..
is this normal?
2007-02-14 14:07:28 · 7 answers · asked by Mike J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
not to be rude.. but i suggest couple's therapy and you two should watch talk sex with that old lady or some good ol' dr. phil
hah.
but umm not to be rude again but i think that this woman is a jerk. you're not the idiot..she is. she is to insicure about something.
2007-02-14 17:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by jake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because refer makes you horny.
I think the problem may be her libido. Does she like/enjoy sex?
Are you two still in love? Is there too much stress in the relationship?
At first glance without thinking about what you were saying, my first thought was... she isn't turned on by him. People get and stay married for different reasons.
My advice to you is to ask her... do you still find me attractive?
Are you still in love with me? Are you too embarrassed to ask me to 'get freaky'?
You could try this.... it's a head game and I don't really approve of them normally.
**start looking good all the time. nice clothes, new hair cut, some Preferred Stock cologne, shave (or have a shadow), smile a lot and find things to laugh about, keep your breath fresh and be QUIET! Don't say a lot to her... just smile. Keep her guessing!
If she asks.... be QUIET! tell her nothing. Don't initiate sex!!!
(a bar of soap has been my best friend once or twice!) Act like you're not interested in her. Start paying more attention to other women.... like looking and a quick smile. Be careful that CAN get you into trouble!
If she doesn't respond to that, then my friend you've got a problem.
Good Luck, Hope I helped.
2007-02-14 22:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just lousy at choosing a partner. If I found out that my significant other had fornicated with 32 people before me I would dump her faster than she could scratch her crotch. Oh and smoking weed or using any other kind of drug is another one and done in my book. Get rid of the dead weight.
2007-02-14 22:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the heck did you marry that! I don't think its you. Sorry but I think she wants out and is trying to provoke you. No loving wife would say that to her husband. If its a problem for her then she should show you what she wants. Not all woman are the same and each have their own preferences.
2007-02-14 22:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by xartinu33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would reconsider if marring her was the right thing to do or not, and if you want to continue the rest of your life getting nothing in return.
2007-02-14 22:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by up_all_night 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! harsh!
sounds like she is using too many drugs and dulling her senses -- even her sex drive...
the time sounds fine to me, so i would guess the problem is her
2007-02-14 22:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce, everyone deserves better
2007-02-14 22:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by krisff27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋