what do you think of polygamy? does your view change depending on whether...?

Question

it's a man with multiple wives, or a woman with multiple husbands? i'm taking a family law course and i'd just like some public feedback.

Answer 1

In our culture, very few people choose polygamy who are not born and raised in that kind of culture. My judgment is that it is not inherently wrong to be a polygamist, but our culture and world view make it a difficult lifestyle to adopt. Monogamy serves to provide stability for people, a home base to feel safe and secure, and a stable way to build and raise a family. In theory, it should be possible for a polygamist culture to provide the same thing, stability, safety and security. However, I would think that the set of expectations and rules and norms that govern such relationships aren't well established enough, and tend to backfire frequently (in open marriages and such), causing chaos and not stability. I am aware that polygamist cultures survive to this day, but the attraction of their lifestyle is definitely muted by the realization that many of the participants in the culture seem to have been born into their situation and have not been offered a fair chance to exercise personal choice in their life...but I am well aware that some may fairly say the same thing about me, that I was born into a set of social rules and expectations that never allowed me a fair chance to consider polygamy. My simple answer is that polygamy can't be declared inherently wrong, but is very much against the traditions and expectations that govern our people, and attempts to include polygamy into the social fabric would harm the current social framework and result in chaos and instability for a great many people, families and children.

Answer 2

I believe that Polygyny Is really not necessary unless it was a culture that had very few men. It can be problematic because how is one man going to support many wifes?

Polyandry on the other hand Is very good for some communities. Having more than one man, and one wife is good because both husbands go out and support the family while a woman can only have one child at a time.

Neither one is good in the United States or Europe or any place that there is no need for such thing. It is all need based.

Answer 3

I think polygamy is wrong and immoral no matter which way you look at it however to me if the men should be able to have multiple wives then why cant the women have multiple husbands. I think it is sexist when only the men in some religions can only have more then one wife and the women can only have one man. Not fair in this case at all.

Answer 4

Well since I am not a religious person, I am more open minded than the average American. I think if people are raised that way and they can have a healthy family environment then I don't see what's wrong with it. I think that people should be allowed to live the way they want as long as they aren't hurting anyone. The kids in these families seem very well adjusted and happy so I don't see that there's anything wrong with it personally.

Answer 5

I dont really care as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult. I figure that the whole system could be much better regulated if it was legal because the persons age/ and consent to the marriage would have to be proved. Also alot of other cutures have no problem with multiple wives/ multiple husbands....I guess its okay for them because they are " backward/ uncivilized "

Answer 6

I personaly have no issues with it. I've seen multiple wives of one husband get along fine with one another and never having issues about being merried to one man. I think it's a good idea based on normal marrige... most times one partner sleeps with another due not to falling out of love but because we're all animals and it's natural to want to ... be with more then one person. It's natural, so I find nothing wrong with it.

Answer 7

As long as all partners are willing, I have no problem with it. The whole arrainged marriage to little girls (even though they wait til the kids are grown) is pretty wrong to me. It must be adults and done with complete agreement by all paople concerned.

Answer 8

I dont know all the guys in the bible had allot of wives but I never seen a woman with alot of husbands in the bible they would call her a whore . . Yes it would change.

Answer 9

in either case i think it is wrong.
mainly because there has been so many problems associated with polygamy (ex: uncles marrying their under-age nieces, other forced marriage)
and also, it just seems unfair to everyone involved.
whats the point in doing it? there is no real love or devotion there.
it just doesn't seem right i suppose.

Answer 10

I am actually in a polygamous marriage. I am teh second wife to my husband. I have a hard time coping sometimes, I am American and our culture looks down upon this, but I love my husband and I love his other wife and their kids. I wish it were legal in this country because I always feel I have this big huge secret to carry with me. I can't even let my family know.