why is this happenig now??

Question

I don`t understand what`s going on with me just now,i`ve been doing fine these pastfew weeks since my ex walked out for the 2nd time on me and our son.

But now i feel as though everything is hitting me again,i just sat and read the emails from the last split and broke my heart as looking back i can see that he was always going to come back with the things he wrote but it`s just so different this time he truly has moved on and isn`t coming home.Why has it taken so long for it to hit me,i feel so down now and can`t stop crying luckily my son is fast asleep in bed,i don`t think i can handle feeling like this again and i have nobody to talk to as it`s after 2:30 in the morning.

I want to sleep but i can`t,i can`t stop thinking about things and it`s hurting me like mad,do you think it`s just because it was valentines day and it will pass?Advice appreciated.thanx.

Answer 1

Yes! put all of that energy into somthing productive. crying and being sad will get you nowhere and make you feel worse. You have to convince yourself to be a better person and move on. Be glad that you're not in a relationship with someone that doesnt love you and just leaves you. You should be happy that you still have your son and you can focus all your attention on him instead of someone less important!

Answer 2

If this is his second time walking out let him go. You or son does not need the drama. Take this time to learn about yourself and spend more time with your son. He does not need to see men in and out of your life. So do not get into another relationship for a while, you can make it on your own. If you are going to date do it away from your son. Right now he needs you. The tears will go away. The pain will lessen. He is not the man for you or the role model for your son. Be patient and wait for a man. If you are going to date do it away from your son.

Answer 3

in a serious relationship the real pain comes after ... its like the process of realizing and feeling the gap ... its only normal and the sad thing is that there is no one u can talk to cause shared pain is half pain and its very good to let things out .
i know its weird but if u need to talk to someone u can write me , i have been throu this too and letting things out helped me a lot
all the best X

Answer 4

You need to try and be strong for you son. Its going to be harder as you know he is not going to come back but just think you will be strong from it, you wont think it now but things like this do make you stronger. As long as you and your son are ok then dont worry. Just try and be strong and get support from your family and friends.
Good luck hope you will be ok.

Answer 5

u say u expected him 2 *** bak last time,it was just a matter of waiting.if u no its final now then don't waste your time and tears on sum1 who doesnt care.if he can walk in and out of u and yor sons life then yor betta off alone.u need stability 4 u and yor son,thats wots important.yule still have thoughts and tears but it will get easier.focus on the most valuable person in yor life,yor son.gud luk.

Answer 6

i don't know if this will help, and it may sound heartless, but find a distraction.. look for other guys online, enjoy the very presence of your child, find a hobby.. trust me, i know EXACTLY what u are going through.. it is probably worse b/c of Valentines day, but this too shall pass

when in doubt smile :)

and MOST important.. i don't know how old your son is, but if he is old enough to understand, assure him that it is NOT HIS FAULT.. kids are more intelligent than you or i know, and he picks up on everything..

Answer 7

Sometimes it's best to just be by yourself. Men are just too much to handle now-a-days.