do you think you were wrong and regret your decision to get a divorce? Would you still make the same decision now? and why do you feel that way. Are you still friendly with each other?
2007-02-14 13:39:15 · 12 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Great question. The day I got divorced was one of the most liberating days of my life. It represented me finally standing up and choosing ME. I don't believe in right and wrong, only healthy and unhealthy choices, and the healthy choice for me had been to get out a long time before I did. So, when I foundly found the courage to reclaim myself and my identity, it was so empowering. I don't regret it, because while the finality of it was scary, I knew it was the healthiest thing I had ever done for myself, and, I would hope I would still have the strength to make the ssame decision today. We've been divorced coming up on 3 years, separated for a year before that, and I am reminded by every occasional call to my job or email, that the person's character has not changed. People can change their personality, if their tidy or messy, but their character, that's another story. So, I receive reinforcement, at least once every six months, that he is the same man I left, and therefore I would leave again. Thanks for reminding me how strong I felt that day! There are no kids involved, and we are civil, but I don't want to be friends, simply because there was a lot of bad things that happened, and I have other support and friends now.
2007-02-14 13:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by helper_for_life16 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I made the right decision to get a divorce. But before i did, i made sure i had tried everything to make it work. I knew there was nothing else to try when i gave up.
I would make the decision again if it were to happen.
He and i are terrific friends and talk on occasion still. I seen him today as he is working with my uncle and was at my moms house early this morning for breakfast. He is living with a gal that i like. I talk to her too.
It was just simply over and i knew it was.....so did he.
We grew apart but had a very good marriage and have continued to get along afterwards.
i have no regrets. I knew it was the right thing to do.
2007-02-14 13:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We still talk from time to time. Mainly he asks about my daughter and I ask about his daughter ( my baby was born a year ago and his was a few months old when we married ). Do I regret the divorce... NO. If I had it to do all over again I would have never married him to start with. We were great friends in the beginning that decided to get married. I did love him but was not in love with him, I was in love with that baby and could not stand the idea of her not having a "mommy". I do not regret the marriage, it was a great learning experience for both of us. The only thing I do regret is the great friendship that was lost.
2007-02-14 13:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is very complicated. I would feel that if a person gets a divorce... lets see with me getting a divorce... if 2 people get to the point of parting like that then it probably is the right thing to do. If there is still Love tru Love and still In Love (difference) then 1 of the people won't let it happen. I'm still cool with the mother of my children. when kids are involved then You must have respect for each other as best as you can. (if it was a bad breakup it's hard) But what keeps me from going crazy (emotionally) is that i learned and keep reminding myself that it's not entirely either one of our faults. people grow and have their own desires and thoughts and ways of thinking. If 2 people aren't IN Love then they don't sacrafice as much and things go bad. it's not personal i tell myself. it's stressful for 2 people to be together and be apart. and that stress causes people to treat each other wrong.
2007-02-14 13:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by lfis492aa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my difficulty, those ideas of uncertainty began very quickly in our marriage. We had and nevertheless have variations that I swear I cant stand yet another day yet yet Im nevertheless the following. All in all, i imagine what keeps me in this marriage is the actual shown reality that we've lengthy previous by potential of a lot and strolling remote from it variety of feels stupid, We dont cheat on eachother, positioned eachother down, or something of that nature, so I tell myself it would want to correctly be worse. Feeling like a failure is yet another element that i imagine of, what might want to my kin imagine, might want to they help me??? Having to commence all yet another time, shifting to a clean position. Divorce is something very serious, your existence as you already comprehend it is going to thoroughly replace and your So AFRAID. So Yeah, you stay because as we talk one way or the different seems more effective powerful than the day surpassed by. You tell your self that Giving up isnt an determination on the prompt, and also you hit upon that inner potential you not in any respect theory you had. so that you close up your eyes, and take some deep breaths and also you wish that your marriage in uncomplicated words receives more suitable.
2016-10-17 07:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by irish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been 3 years and I have never regretted it. We are both much happier apart than we ever were together. We have 2 children and have maintained a good relationship because that's whats best for them.
2007-02-14 14:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by singleagain062005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no - it was a huge relief... things had been pretty bad for some time. I would make the same decision again, but it wouldn't take me 8 years to do so... No - I was willing to but my ex refused even to be civil and speak to me.
2007-02-14 13:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by jj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No mistake in the divorce, mine was to correct the prior mistake of getitng married.
No regrets, I would not make the same error because one must learn from their errors.
No, I am not friendly with my ex.
2007-02-14 13:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Anyone who is still friendly with a divorced spouse had no reason to get divorced. In my opinion, only intense physical violence is worth divorcing over (or cheating, which given the number of stds out there, is a form of deadly physical violence). Otherwise, even if they cal you names and stuff, it's better to keap things as they are than change things around and be lonely on top of it.
2007-02-14 13:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nope. Like the saying goes, Divorces are so expensive because they're worth it! And no we're not friendly @ all.
2007-02-14 13:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Scottie Boy 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋