We just dont want want another baby for a few years and im always so scared!!! someone help me please!!!!
2007-02-14 13:39:04 · 18 answers · asked by ashley d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would recommend getting an IUD if the only problem is the fear of getting pregnant.
2007-02-14 13:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by tryingagain 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honestly, I know exactly how you feel. But...marital relations are, well, necessary. So...take birth control if you can, have your husband use a condom, then if you really need some reassurance, read about the Billings Ovulation Method. I used it between kids because I can't take birth control and I'm allergic to latex. We planned both kids, with no oopsies. So we were very happy with it. But honestly, it took me a good year after my son and daughter were born to get back into the swing of things. I practically had to write in sex on my calendar so I wouldn't forget that it was important. So relax, you love your hubby, and there really are worse things than having kids a little closer together than you would have liked.
2007-02-14 13:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by dakirk123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. It is VERY normal. I wouldnt even suggest that it is post partum. Let me tell you, I was there, but I wasnt really afraid of getting pregnant again. I just felt all "different" down there after having my baby. I dont mean like fat or anything. It was just a different feeling for me-like things werent in the right place I guess. It took me about 2 1/2 years before I became comfortable again. I guess I had to learn my body all over. I hardly had sex with my hubby. (He wasn't liking that) I talked to my obgyn about it. She told me everything was normal down there, and she told me to read "The Joy of Sex". I laughed at her, I said hon, I read that when I was like 17 as well as the kuma book. So she was not any help. My husband is the one who actually helped. We sat down and talked about the issues I was having-it was not him. And with his patience and understanding, we worked through it. We found out it takes me a little longer now than it did before the baby. And yes some things I liked before, I did not like now. (Dont ask me why, still have no idea.) So for 2 years, we did what we got used too. And it wasnt helping me or him. Now we learned new things my body liked, and we are great. I would say that fear may have had a small part in it. I have to say thanks to such a committed husband. Since yours is fear, I do suggest the you use 2 forms of birth control, or birth control and the pull out method. What ever you feel comfortable with. Maybe you 2 need to talk like I did. But I di not need a doctor or a shrink. Good luck.
2007-02-14 14:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by bratzmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pull out method isnt very safe, although I dont know the exact percentage. My son was conceived that way as a matter of fact, and we were also very careful. You should say no sex if you dont feel like having sex. On the other hand, you should just get some condoms. You can get them for free at Planned Parenthood and at Dept of Human Services offices if money is actually what is preventing you from using them. Also alot of Drs offices and hospitals and other places that provide services for pregnant women will have them available. They are typically kept in the bathroom. Dont be afraid to take the free condoms! They are there for whoever needs them to prevent pregnancy. No one but you will know anyways, unless you outright tell people "I take the free condoms from the DHS office!". You are risking getting pregnant using the pull out method much more than if you used condoms. Also theres other methods of birth control other than pills that you could look into.
2016-05-24 00:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is not being cooperative, this is the sort of thing that a visit or two to a good family counselor could straighten out in fairly short order. The counselor will recommend that the two of you learn to discuss matters pertaining to sex and reproduction, and discuss them like adults: real questions, real answers. Then he or she will make sure that you understand how birth control works. There are a lot of different methods.
If your church, or his parents, or your parents, or someone else is objecting to all of this then it is absolutely important for you and your husband to both be on the same side. If your husband is objecting, then you both have a lot of work to do if the marriage is to stay together.
Check with your local public health service office to find a counselor, and good luck. With good will on all sides, problems such as this can usually be solved.
2007-02-14 13:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by 2n2222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This feeling will fade, before you know it you will be yearning for another. I was the same way. My baby is 21 months old and I have just started longing for another baby...I don't know if this is because I am missing the 'baby phase' of my daugther, she seems so grown up now, with nothing baby-ish about her (except for still needing nappies) or what is causing it, but it has happened despite my fear.
Relax. When the time is right for you to have another, nothing will hold you back :)
2007-02-14 13:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is sooo normal. Just relax a bit and stop worrying. If you use birth control you will be fine. .he can also pull out before he cums in addition to the pill for instance. The important thing is that you and your husband talk openly about your feelings. Good Luck
2007-02-14 13:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean your an adult right??. Haven't you heard of contraception. Like the pill, condoms, IUD,and many more, speak to your doctor and come up with a method that suites you and your husband the best.
2007-02-14 13:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you get on birthcontrol, buy spermicide strips or foam, and have him wear a condom. And if you get pregnant from using all that, then you were just ment to have a baby. Congrats on your new baby
2007-02-14 13:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got birth control called merina...its really cool, the doctor inserts it into your uteris and it last 5 years...you can take it out whenever you want and you will be just as fertile the day you take it out as the day you put it in. it is nice...i havent had any problems with it...my fiancee says he can feel the threads that are used to pull it out but he said it isnt bad and it is totally worth it.
2007-02-14 13:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by bjd72003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through that same situation. And I got pregnant again. I'm going to watch to see who gets best answer. Great question, dear.
2007-02-14 13:43:10 · answer #11 · answered by Debi in LA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋