So, Im 15 & I have been on and off with this boy since I was 11 [young, i know] So anyways, he is not a bad kid but he makes bad desicions [he is turning 17]. He has been in jail 2 times since we started going out. Once for not going to school, and once for drug charges [not making any exuses for him]. I know a lot of people seem to think that i should stay away from him. I have a 3.5 GPA in school & I am kind of a good kid.... Sometimes i think he in using me... he always asks me for stuff and I always give. Also, everytime he does something bad, I always end up forgiving him. In your opinion, should i just leave him alone, or should I stick by his side to see what happens?? What is your opinions on this??Thanks
2007-02-14 13:36:43 · 33 answers · asked by I luv me some chris breezy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would leave him and let him prove himself to you because he is going to get worse like the saying goes if you love something set it free if it comes back to you then it is yours if it does not then it was not ment to be well this is they way I see your relationship with this guy if he is taking and not giving in return then dump him before you get into trouble because of him you sound like you have a good thing going for yourself with your grades and I would not screw them up for anyone you are still young and have a lot of life and love to give and get so if he really does care he would change his ways to be with you if he tries to lay a guilt trip on ya then he is worthless and really does not care about you as much as you think it is probably just a convenience relationship for him you are there when he needs you and just takes sounds like a **** head to me
2007-02-14 13:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by freddy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know that whatever anyone said you will make your own choice. I am 21 and I have been with my husband( now) for 4 years he has been in jail for traffic tickets and yes he used to do drugs till he was almost 18 then one day he woke up and decided to be a good person. He has changed so much he is a AWESOME father and a great husband he has had a job for 4 years now and makes good money and supports us VERY well. I think it is what the guy decides to do with himself is what matters. You might need to back off for a while to let him get his SH** together before you go under with him. I thank god when I met him he was about out of that stage ( he is 22 now) With age he will mature ( hopefully) but do not let anyone use you!! If he does that than leave his A** till he can see how important you are
Good Luck
2007-02-14 13:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this guy is a player u dont need that and you have PLENTY of time to find the right guy. And u guys were young when u got together meaning younger and less wise (dont take this to be effensive its not meant to be) and gurl u have a 3.5 GPA... thats good hes not, you deserve to have a guy with high standards for himself i can see by your GPA you have high standards for yourself every girl deseves better newayz HE SHOULD GET YOU STUFF you should feel like a princess not just some ex-cons girlfriend. also i loved bad boys too, i liked a boy who was on house arrest for several reasons, not a very good idea, and ive been with drug dealers and you name the bad boy ive had him. finally i broke the habit because i hated waking up the next day goin to school and not knowing if he where sick or went to jail. and now i have a guy who works 40 hrs. a week (keep in mind its supposed to be a part time job) and is a cute dude who buys ME things well whatever your decsion GOOD LUCK
2007-02-14 13:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by Heya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that because you've been with him so long you feel like you have to stay with him. Maybe its almost like a comfort thing to you knowing that you have a boyfriend. I've gotten into a lot of trouble in my day but i was never neccesarily a bad kid. It was just a phase I was going through. Maybe your bf's doing the same thing. I don't think you should let him go just yet but I do think that you should allow yourself to be open to other guys. You know weigh your options a little bit just in case it does come to you having to break up with him. Stick with him but let him know you want him to change. If he doesn't then he must not care about you enough and you can go for the other guys.
2007-02-15 13:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ace of Blackness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't what you re going to want to hear but, Leave him, right now. It will hurt, I guarantee it will hurt, but you will be doing it for you. You will find someone so much better then that. Obviously you are a good girl and deserve a good guy. Leave that other guy behind. Your heart will break, but everyone's breaks, but its what makes us who we are and makes us stronger. After you let him go, and experienced heart break, and are no longer depressed, you will feel so much better about yourself. You will realize how important family and friends are and not that certain boy. What you should do, starting NOW is not talk to him, if he calls, hang up, if he talks to you, say your busy or you need to go, just forget him. If not you will end up very very unhappy. I was once in a relationship like this, but as soon as I left him I felt this huge weight lift up from me. You are a women, and he is a little boy, you deserve better and need better. You need someone who loves you who wont get arrested and leave you behind, who wont do something bad, who wont do DRUGS! Honestly hunny, let him go now. I wish you luck! I hope you do the right thing!
2007-02-14 14:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my oppnion you should leave him. I know it is hard just for the fact that u were with him since u were 11, but it is teh smart desicion. he got arrested twice and didnt even care! so if he dosemt care about going to jail what else is he going to do? U sem to be a nice girl and i dont want to see u get hurt. U deserve much better and u should make a choice that will benifit u.
2007-02-14 14:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand why you cant leave him
You guys been in a relationship for almost 4 years
Love is blind and u just fall in love
But now u have to think with ur brain not ur heart
Your both in to different ways ur good he's bad
Your not meant for eachother
My advice is To leave him
But i can't make u its ur life and u gotta make a decision
2007-02-14 13:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by Bouchra :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there it seems you two have gone through alot,i say you leave him alonesometimes its better letting things go that are pulling us down he sounds like a nice guy but why stay if you could do better for yourself. later on in life this guy shant matter you`ll meet a better person who will respect and really care about you i cant make the choice for you but by the sounds of things you better off without him.
2007-02-17 23:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by aimz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been loyal all this time, and you've always been by his side. Maybe he needs to be by YOUR side for once. Friendships aren't one-way streets. This guy sounds like bad news, you should tell him that you want to be friends, but he has to put forth some effort.
2007-02-14 13:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by aSchway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM!
a relationship like that can't be good.
It might turn into an abbusive one.
He may seem sweet now, and he may make you feel like you should forgive him, but if you make the right choice now, it will change your life for the better.
2007-02-14 13:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by la. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋