Will we ever be parents???

Question

My husband has 2 children from his previous marriage. His ex wife had no problems getting pregnant. I have had a difficult time of it. We want children so badly together, but I have problems getting pregnant and the one time I did conceive, I miscarried. I am feeling depressed and hopeless. I planned on having 4 children and thought it would be so easy since I am young, only 21. We have been trying for 2 years, and no baby. I long to hold my child in my arms, to feed my child, to teach him or her everything about life. I am begining to think it will never happen. I just got my period today and I am so depressed.
Sorry, just wanted to vent.

Answer 1

Don't give up I am going through the exact same thing. I'm 25 my Husband has two kids from him ex also. We have custody of them so I know what its like to be a mom, but I want to experience giving birth. I get depressed every time I start my period too. I was at the Dr. yesterday because I thought I was but No again. It makes it even harder because everyone around me is pregnant. Be strong and good luck!

Answer 2

Oh hun, I understand it took me almost 2 years to conceive my first. I know how tough that is. Every month you are on pins and needles...I went and saw a doctor. They told me that the stress of trying can sometimes make it hard to conceive. If you have had a miscarriage (I had 2) you should go and speak with a doctor. They can help point you in the right direction. If you go see a doctor and don't get the help you are looking for try again. The first 2 doctors I saw told me to keep trying, that I was young and if I was having trouble when I was 30 to come back. I was also in my early 20's. So I kept looking until I found someone willing to help me. Don't give up sweetie, it's tough but there are options out there. If you want to be a mother you will find a way. Good Luck, I hope it all turns out for you. Try and keep your chin up. The very day I told my husband I didn't want to try anymore I found out I was pregnant....It can work out for you. Again, good luck

Answer 3

I completely understand, I felt the exact same way. Nothing anyone can say will really make you feel better. I know you get tired of hearing people say give it time and it will happen when it is suppose to. Keep talking and venting, it does help. Try to find someone that is going through it or has gone through it and talk to them. It helps more than you know. I thought it would never happen as well. We tried for three years, but i'm almost 4 months pregnant now.You never know when it's going to happen either, mine was very strange. So, don't give up. Have you gone to the doctors? Your age makes the chances of you getting pregnant better, maybe with help but better to know now, than when you are older.

Answer 4

My husband and I tried for one month and we were pregnant with our daughter and then 2 years later we were ready to try again. Well it didn't work as easy this time as it did the first time. We tried for a year and then I went to the OBGYN and he took some blood and we realized that I was messing the cycles that I needed to get pregnant. Well I went out and bought this book TAKING CHARGE OF YOUR FERTILITY by Toni Weschler,MPH and was reading it. The doctor called me to tell me that my blood leaves were not right to come in two weeks and we would talk about putting me on something to help regulate my cycles. Well after reading this book I could tell when I was to ovulate and when I was suppose to go back in to the doctor it became my first prenatal appointment. We are due to have our second child in August. Good Luck!!

Answer 5

I went through trying to concieve for many years. 3 misscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy. It was crushing at the time. I only ever wanted to be a mum. Today im 46 and remain childless. I just want you to know that I got to an age were I realised it was to late and never going to happen. Today my life is full. I work with Autistic children....now thats rewarding, I go home at night and my time is my own, I sleep when I want, my life is not stressful. It isnt the end of the world just think of your options of life without children, there endless. I hope I dont sound heartless. just wanted to let you know where im at with being childless at 46. Goodluck

Answer 6

It's absolutely alright to feel this way. And i know how it must feel hearing about his ex wife. but do not stress yourself over it. I'ts hearbreaking, i know but it doesnt mean there's no hope. On average, it takes a couple at least that amount of time to conceive.

If you want some advice, try this. Before i got pregnant, i took Centrum vitamins. Doctors recommend them for those who r trying to conceive. I got pregnant extremely fast after one bottle.

I hope this helps sweetie.

Answer 7

Keep your spirits up, I know that it is something that all married couples want to experience. I have seven and love mine to death. However, since you just miscarried give it alittle more time. The doctor usually recommends 6 weeks or longer before trying again. Make sure you do it when you should be ovulating, and don't do it when you are stressed. only when you are relaxed. Good Luck!

Answer 8

wow.


I'm sorry. Those who want children and would treat them the best have the hardest time. I really wish you the best in conceiving a child of your own. You sound like you would be a really great mom. That is something every child deserves.

Answer 9

You should definitely seek genetic counseling. The counselor will be able to look at your family history, explain specific conditions based on age, ethnicity, and genetic history and discuss what testing might accomplish , and what options you might have. A counselor might be able to figure out why things don't seem to be working out for you, and provide suggestions that might help.

Answer 10

I get that way too! dont feel bad and im also 21 if you ever need to vent write me [e-mail]....i dont know really ohw to get through it when i see the sign of my period i get soo bummed out the rest of the day.....