The gay cure?

Question

When I was young, I was absolutely convinced that homosexuality was immoral, and that Jesus and religion were the cure. I desperately wanted a little house with a white picket fence; a wife; kids; the whole nine yards. Unfortunately, God refused to answer my prayers to "turn" me straight. For a long time I thought that was His way of telling me "You're gay, now I don't want you anymore". Now, I think that the only thing I need to forgive myself for is allowing people with this twisted ideology to stand between me and God for so many years. What do you think? Did you ever try to "cure" yourself? What were the results? Do you still think it's possible? I'm curious to know both the fundamentalist and the gay perspective.

dze, I believe I made it very clear that even "God's intervention" wasn't enough to "cure" me of homosexuality. What part of that was ambiguous?

Answer 1

Good for you!

When I first read this, I thought it'd be another troller talking about how homosexuality is a sin etc etc.

I definitely think it's possible to be gay and Christian (Although, in my case, I'm either without religion or pagan). I never tried to cure myself, however.

Answer 2

Personally I have never felt the need to attempt to "cure" myself. My family did not care about it either, so I guess I got off lucky there compared to other people. However, from the people I have met who have not been so lucky.. There is no such thing as a "gay cure". The people who say they are "cured" are simply lying to themselves and everyone else. The nicest possible way of religion tells people to resist their urges and not act on any of their "queer" tendencies.. However when you get into it, it's lying just as much as any other form of denial is. I feel sorry for you that you felt the need to cure yourself, and that it took you so long to realize it was not possible. Now I guess the only question you can ask yourself is: If God really did not intend you to be gay, why wouldn't you be able to change it?

Answer 3

Like other people have said there is no cure. If you find yourself loving the same sex don't go against it. I'm straight as can be and I love gay people who are respectful to the fact that some people in this world don't agree with gay lifestyles. Unluckily for the gay community the straight community doesnt have the same point of view right? It sucks and I hate that about our society. But slowly it won't be necessary for anyone to hide what they like or dislike. The world changes every second but you don't have to change with it. Love yourself hun and you'll see how easier your life turns out to be. Happy V-day!

Answer 4

BRAVO! And yes I tried for years to "cure" myself. I hated myself so much I became self destructive for a few years when I was a teen. I even managed to get myself pregnant at a young age. When I finally came to terms with my true self I straightened my life up and have gone on to lead a very successful life. I don't believe I would have done so had I stayed "in the closet".
I am so happy to hear your story. It really made me smile!

Answer 5

I live in the South- the deep south. Where homosexuality is repulsive, a sin, "curable", and is one of the most hated things. I grew up Christian, pentecostal and baptist. I was very involved in the church- youth leader, was a member of the drama team, in the church choir, and was at church all the time.
When it got out that I was "bi" [I am really gay. I always told people this so they would like me because I still liked women. It was not as severe as "gay" was.], they church removed me from all church projects and everything. I had a performance that night and I could not be a part of it because of it. They recommended treatment and everything. I tried it. Of course, with no success. In the end, I eventually played it off and that I was str8.
I soon accepted the fact that I was gay. I came out to close friends. No matter what, true friends WILL accept you. Then I told my mother and step-father. They freaked out! It is a VERY long story -- Lots of pain and lies and faking str8.

Yes! I tried to "cure" myself. I asked "God" to turn me straight, begging him, crying at the church alter. I tried everything- from hiding it with dating girls and acting homophobic. It always leads to self-destruction and pain. Bottling up your emotions, feelings, and urges will always end badly.
Accepting yourself for who you are and being who you want to be, instead of being that person your parents want you to be, is the first huge step.
I do not think it is possible to "cure" homosexuality and I believe that homosexuals are born gay.

Answer 6

Its a way for god to say, "you're gay, get used to it"... he still loves you and it is not immoral.
If god is perfect, why would he create something immoral.

You can still have a husband, a white picket fence, and some adopted kids. You will be very happy.

Answer 7

I think in 33 1/2 years on earth, there was a reason Christ never said anything about Homosexuality. It just wasn't important.

Answer 8

Being Gay Is Not A Sickness,
It Is A Sexual Preference.

Answer 9

hanknowaff: animals can not consent to sex, so it is technicly(spelling?) rape.

if god created humans, then he created all human flaws, meaning homosexuality as well......

good for you.

Go get that little house with the white picket fence and kids, don't forget the dog ;) lol

Answer 10

it truly is abuse, robbery of a persons'' money (the treatment would not artwork) and bullying. It makes people journey undesirable for loving someone of the similar gender. it truly is likewise shown to no longer artwork through potential of MANY establishments.