My sis-n-law asks me or mom to baby sit until a given time. She will drop them off, and later, she will call back and say that she is going to be 2-3 hrs late. Sometimes she will even call back after that and say she will be even later! i feel obligated because she gives my daughter a ride to school about 1-2 times a month.
But when we babysit for we know that it is not going to be until 2pm. My mother and I always say, "What time do you think she is going to be home?"
Why do you think she does this?
2007-02-14 12:02:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My brother, her husband, is sometimes out of town. He is also hard to keep track of. Can't really explain his role. Mother and I are confused about that one. None of us live togetther
2007-02-14 13:36:28 · update #1
next time give the kid back to her, but make sure his hands are sticky from syrup
2007-02-14 12:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are the MEN? You mention only your sis-in-law, you, and your mother. Do you all live together? If not, maybe you should. Your sis-in-law is likely an alcoholic, doing drugs, or chronically depressed, and is obviously overwhelmed. This degree of irresponsibility might not end when she picks up the kids. I would talk to the men about the problem, and GET THEM INVOLVED!!! If she needs help, try to find out what her issues are and get her the right kind of help... enabling bad behavior is not really helping. If she needs to move in so that she has more help with the kids, then buckle down and do it for the kids' sake. Or take turns staying with her and helping out a couple days out of the week. This is your family... it IS your business to know what is going on, especially if she is already relying on you to take care of her kids.
2007-02-14 21:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by David T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she is taking advantage of you. There was a girl I offered to babysit for once and she said she would be back that night and never showed up till late the next morning takling about "oh im hungover"....that was the last time I babysitted. Don't let people take advantage of you! If its that bad find another arrangement to get your daughter to school and you wont feel so obligated. Or set the rules gently but firmly. Tell her you need a time and she needs to be back at that time or you will not be able to babysit anymore.
2007-02-14 20:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kristine R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a mom, I know that she probably needs some deserved free time, but that is usually what the husband is for. However, being late and later, time after time is uacceptable. If I were you I would think she may be doing some questionable(legal or not) things while she is kid-free. And even though it may be none of your business ask her what she is doing that makes her late, see if she stumbles to answer you, then you will know it may be a cover. Tell her if she keeps on being late, you will refuse to watch the children, for god's sake your mother and you have a life also!
2007-02-14 20:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows your stuck once you have her kid. What are you going to do throw the baby out? She know in advanced that shes going to be late. Don't feel to obligated a ride every now and then is way different than hours of baby sitting.
2007-02-14 20:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by firshizel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're being taken advantage of it sounds like. it also sounds like maybe your sister in law got away with pawning her kids off on you once and was late, and now feels like she can do it whenever she wants cause you wont say anything. you really should sit down with her and tell her that this has becoma regualr occurence. tell her that you dont mind watching her children, but that thre are things that you and your mother need to get done after 2, and that when she is late all the time you are not able to get your own things done.
talk to her, work something out...hope this helps!
2007-02-14 20:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you let her.
Don't watch her kid anymore. You shouldn't feel obligated to watch the children for hours and hours after she told you she would be by to pick them up just because she drives your kids to school twice a month. I think you can do the math and find that you are giving a lot more then what you are getting.
2007-02-14 20:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not obligated hun, and sounds to me that this woman may have something preoccupying her time. If it doesn't bother you to babysit then its not a problem, but if so, then make it known to her. Nothing worse than a pent up complaint being saved because of some small sense of duty or loyalty to someone who will abuse it.
2007-02-14 20:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by EyeKneadPoints 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Off the top of my head, I think she's does this because she's inconsiderate, a tad flakey (sp?) and doesn't want to take care of her children. Why should she take care of them when she knows her family will. Your being taken advantage of.
Those children are lucky to have you and your mother. You can feel comfortable knowing they are safe and in good hands.
2007-02-14 20:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by Polynomial 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She must believe that you won't oblige if she asks you to keep the child for a longer period of time up front. She keeps doing it because there are no consequences....apparently.
2007-02-14 20:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by momx3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have personal reasons why she is doing this.maybe, she is not yet readyu to have such responsibility and that she would wanted to enjoy still. you must aask her personally why she is doing this for you could only find the answer if you'll ask her. She knows it right?
2007-02-14 20:08:12 · answer #11 · answered by Psyche P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋