14 year old boy (soon 15) has been giving me attitude about basic things lately. I'm getting alot of "I don't knows" or "Can't Remeber" when I'll ask a basic question. I'll then hear him tell someone else a correct answer who asks the same question. These are questions that he knows the answers to and are usually just conversational questions. It really driving me crazy and I am not asking a bunch of prying questions. These are just basic conversations like asking him when he bought such and such and he'll tell me he can't remember and then my nephew will ask him the same thing and he tell him he bought it the day before. I've had the talk about how "I don't know" or "I can't remember" or "nuthin" are not acceptable answers to questions, but he just doesn't seem to care. Any suggestions?
2007-02-14 11:50:27 · 15 answers · asked by benjamin p 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
that ain't attitude, he really "DOESN'T KNOW!!!!" ok
it's a phase, he WILL out grow it, trust me =)
2007-02-14 14:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by The_Pink_One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't end soon, so I wouldn't get to annoyed with it. And he probably doesn't care. My dad usually asks how my day at school was. That's the worst. I hate school. I would answer to my sister or cousin because they're probably experiencing some of the same things. Also, I hate being asked questions. There's nothing worse than someone asking simple questions...and then asking more and more. You probably ask him questions like this frequently too.
I don't have any suggestions. Just...go with the flow. Showing him that he's getting to you will only make him do it more. And as long as he knows that you're always there for him, if there's something important that wants to share, he will. He's a teenager. Attitude is a synonym for teenager.
2007-02-14 20:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by kisk29 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
...It's an adult thing...kids just act like that to adults because if the kid starts talking to them...the talking will go into areas that they dont' want to talk about and adults get long winded about some things that kids just dont' want to hear about.
If you asking them when they bought something...and then they answer you...then you'll ask them why or who talked them into that...or complain to them that they shouldnt' have spent their money on this or that...the "I can't remember" shuts down the conversation so there's no more talking or annoying questions...
I remember doing that when I was younger because I wanted to get onto stuff I wanted to do and not have to listen to my parents tell me what was right or wrong...because I really didn't care even if they were right.
I suggest not asking him where he got whatever...unless it's something that really bothers you because kids tend to think that's the only reason parents are saying anything to them at all. The best thing you can do...is not get mad at him for saying that stuff because yelling at him isn't going to help, it's going to push him away. I suggest just kinda being in the background...let him know you're there but you're letting him have his space and you're not going to judge him.
2007-02-14 20:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hes a teenager like me(I'm 15). What did you expect. sometimes we just want to be left alone. We get agitated easily and have enough on our minds. Wait until hes ready to come to you or else you will just push him away further. Unless hes in serious danger you should leave him be until you make things worse.
2007-02-14 20:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get the same attitude from my 16 year old son. He tells me that I am always at him all of the time. Patience is the main thing . he will come around .besides he thinks that you are being nosey . at that age you really need to listen.
2007-02-14 20:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by shirley m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he feels more comfortable with people his own age... or around his age. Adults can intimidate kids. He doesn't say "i don't know" or "can't remember" because he has an attitude... maybe he just doesn't want to talk to you. You might need to warm up to him first and the start asking questions.
2007-02-15 09:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by JessiKa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this your son your talking about? If so you need to let him know these are not acceptable answers and follow through with whatever consequences are appropriate. Just remember he is a teenager and they are prone to being rebellious but set limits and he'll come around.
2007-02-14 19:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by insd92104 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
your living with a teenage boy, and your his mother, it was meant to happen! things will get better though!
2007-02-14 20:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by Haley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just how teenagers are, lol. It's a phase.
2007-02-14 20:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes a teenager.... what can ya do??? and if its just basic q's he probably doesnt feel like talking.... and what harm is he ??causing??
2007-02-14 20:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way. Maybe you could improve your attitude as well.
2007-02-14 20:15:01 · answer #11 · answered by Lori 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋