i think it's because my birthday is next saturday. i'll be 23 and i feel so old and like a danm looser to be honest. i'm going to graduate from university this december and i dont know...iplus i'm having probs with my mother. i just feel like crying but refuse to do so and i dont feel right [not physically tho]. i just dont know, i really just dont know...any advice? anything? honeslty i dont know how to be more specific because i dont know what's wrong with me
2007-02-14 11:40:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
loosen up, get a sex life,
2007-02-14 11:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
The world today if very complex and many people your age become overwhelmed, I have 2 daughters your age and they have gone through similar feeling as well. The best advice for the short term I would give to you is each time that you feel lousy do some form of exercise as this will help you relax a take your mind off of your troubles and it is good for your over all health. I don't think you could be a loser if you are about to graduate college the end of this year, that is a big accomplishment and it will be with you for the rest of your life so stick with it and you'll be Glad you did especially when your older. I hope you can resolve your problems with your Mom as having a close support system is so important but if it is not there for you don't give up on yourself, keep moving forward and try to stay positive and if available seek counseling at your school if these feelings don't subside soon, good luck.
2007-02-14 19:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 38 with no prospects as far as "what I want to be when I grow up"... don't feel bad... you are in school... and soon to graduate! Problems will always work them selves out eventually. If you feel it may be chemical, then get a pill! I'm trying an anti depressant. I'm not sure it's doing what I need it to, but it's a slow "one day at a time" process when it comes to finding a right balance with anything... This world sucks! There is plenty to be depressed about! Just so long as you interrupt it with a bubble bath, a walk, pet a dog or a kitty, download some fun music on line... Be good to yourself. By the way 23 isn't nothing... You should always appreciate your age as a plateau of where you are... a trophy! You got alot going for you! Just keep trying!
2007-02-14 19:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you're feeling... I'm kinda down myself - my parents almost got divorced, I'm far from home and think I'm doing nothing, haven't achieved anything so far...
Still, there's always life!
I can say that 23 is not very old (I mean, people live to be even 100!!!), and I know (22 myself) that, in that age, you can not be a looser - too little time to achieve, too little time to loose! I think that graduating is what hits you the most - it will be like that with me soon, I suppose. You're no longer a kid, soon there will be no more school - you're getting into life, like an adult. That's no small stress to handle. And, about your mom, I think things will work out - a parent is the closest one you've got!
Don't worry, life will always go on - that's for sure; that's what I tell myself whenever I'm in a down mood. Just concentrate on yourself and on the people - what you can hear and see and what you can live trough with another person - a friend, a lover, an acquaintance - is immensely large. Please, don't be that way - live a life and try to love and connect to people. At the end, that's all that remains - love and remembering...
2007-02-14 19:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by Uros I 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people have problems with their mothers...you're not alone there...don't see yourself through her eyes, or anyone else's eyes, for that matter...start writing a journal..even if what you write is sporadic and dark..I did this when I was suffering from acute depression...it scared me into seeking help...I found out I had a physiological reason for feeling depressed and with some counseling and medication, I am doing better....there should be someone at your university clinic that can put you in touch with some medical help..you've made a wonderful first step...you asked for help by writing this question and then posting it...so, you're on the right track...don't stop now....you are not old, by the way...I happen to be 53 and haven't seen 23 for 30 years....but, depression can make a person of any age feel ancient...it's the nature of the beast...
2007-02-14 20:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by EvelynMine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has bouts of Depression- and honey- I am 35 and it just gets better with age! The 20's suck! I am starting over in my career and the world is ahead of me so where is your world at soon-to-be-23? WAY WAY ahead of you. I get depressed too, I can relate to the parental thing- haven;t spoken to my father in years- it sucks but you move on- and there is absolutly NOTHING wrong with crying. It can feel good sometimes. Keep your head up and look at the small things- the nature around you- I like the big blue sky- I feel small in the larger scheme of things-
You are at a crossroads in your life- graduating from college- how awesome!!!!
And you can always see a doctor that will give you happy pills until you sort things out.
Good luck and God Bless! HEAD UP! (as best that you can)
2007-02-14 19:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by banana 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My goodness you are going to be 23, graduate and have your whole life to look forward to. I believe you are having problems because you have a new way of life coming to you. You have been in school, depending on others and now you have much to do for yourself. Trust me you will look back on all of this and wish you could do it all over. Every year will become more exciting.
I am going to be 63 and have problems with my mother (she is 89 and lives with me) but I am always looking for something fun.
It will be better Happy Birthday Therapy might help for a short term
2007-02-14 19:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by lakelover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are a loser at all. In fact, you are to be congratulated for your accomplishments. I suspect that your mother has given you this inferior attitude of yourself. So that's a good reason to get out on your own. Age 23 is very young and is probably the age at which you create a new identity for yourself and make positive decisions that will effect you for the rest of your life.
2007-02-14 19:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by doncunn8 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a winner to me ... somebody whose going places, you're 23 and going to graduate from university ... congratulations, that in itself is a huge accomplishment.
The 20's are a common confusion time as people try to find their way in the world (picking a spouse/having kids/choosing a career) ... it can be a tough time.
Problems with mothers & daughters are common. I too went through a period in my 20's where I hated my mom ... 20 years and many disagreements later, we have a great relationship.
Hang in there and if this depression doesn't lift in a few weeks, please go talk to your doctor. Happy Valentines Day!
2007-02-14 19:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about seeing a counselor or a therapist? Respectfully, I would advice you to speak with a counselor at your university.
It's okay to cry if you have to; let it out.
By the way, 23 is not old. You're still very young.
Congratulations on graduating, and best of luck to you.
2007-02-14 19:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by Roland 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
life is rough so you have to play hard. Congrats on the graduation
2007-02-14 19:48:32 · answer #11 · answered by tsmalls5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋