I'm in a 2 years on and off relationship with my boyfriend; however; we were seperated for eight months (while I thought we broke up) he said that he needed some time to see if he really loves me. Now he's back and I feel as though he cares more than ever b/c before he would look at other girls and since he is my first love, I was afraid to say anything to him back then, but since he's been back I have been really hard on him, though he shows more feelings now and surprisingly, he's not looking at other girls. One problem he suggested that I lose weight and that's all he wants from me. What do you guys think ????
2007-02-14 11:12:11 · 5 answers · asked by Rose H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First ask yourself ? Do you want to loose weight ? Its important to be happy with the way you look. If you're not happy and if hes not happy then you should loose weight. In relationships, there wiill be times when we might have to do something that we;re not that excited about to satisfy our partner, but remember you come first. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-14 12:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well remember one thing, losing weight doesn't occur in a 24-hour basis. I have to admit, I had a similar problem with my ex reguarding her weight although I never commented nothing about it because I would think it would be somewhat insulting from my perspective, but as I see, you too are straight-foward. So, ask him time. It's all you need, time and effort.
Remember one thing, love is worth anything, but only if it's real, by this I mean, if he loves you deeply, he needs to have patience and understanding. And this I would consider a positive change. On the other hand, you don't have to if you don't want to, a man who loves his woman, loves her because of who she is, not because of how she looks. I apologize if this confused you more, because I re-read it and I have something from both aspects. But then again, I support both sides. You make the decision.
2007-02-14 19:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Luis G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been with my husband for almost 12 years, married 10 and a half. NEVER in the entire time we have been together has he suggested I lose weight. AND my weight has gone up and down up and down. In fact, he continually tells me that I'm attractive...even when I feel like the biggest, fattest blob. He loves me, he makes me feel special, he's got that trick down. The two year mark in my experience has been a very telling mark. So at this point, if it's not working for you, I think you should move on, especially with all the on/off you've had, it's too rocky.
2007-02-14 19:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's back to start fresh, then he should except you for who you are. If you feel that you could lose a few pounds on your own, then do it for you not him.And if he threatens to leave you if you don't, then tell him he should love you for who you are, not what size you wear.If he really is sincere about not looking at other girls and you feel that he's trying, (you know him better than we do)then if you feel like losing weight then go for it.But remember the things you do, should be to make yourself feel better,a relationship shouldn't come with certain conditions,it's what you see is what you get.Your choice Good luck
2007-02-14 19:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that he should love you for who you are... i don't know you and i don't know you full situation but i can see him sayingg something if he is worried about your health, but if he is just sayin it because he is looking at to many mags! i am sure you are beautiful just the way you are. you shouldn't change for anybody no matter how much you love them because you will regret it later!
2007-02-14 19:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by manda-may 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋