the moment i got engaged i suddenly found myself hornier and looking around at other girls more than ever before...is this normal behavior for a man...and how might i curb this sudden hunger...without being with another woman...
2007-02-14 11:05:12 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it is not normal. You are freaking out because you are not truly in love with her. Yes, you actually can love her without being "in love." That is to say, the euphoric passion to be with her and only her is not there. It's either that or she does not satisfy you sexually or you're really just not all that physically/sexually attracted to her. More likely, it's the lack of sexual fulfillment or attraction.
In the past, I didn't understand what people meant by that loving but not being "in love." After 7 years of marriage, I figured it out the hard way. I love my wife dearly, but the physical attraction and passion are just is not there anymore. I don't care what anyone says, physical attraction counts for a lot in a relationship-you folks can give me all the thumbs down that you want to.
2007-02-14 11:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Cold Feet", is a real thing, I did not really believe that until I got married and both me and my husband went through our own versions of pre-wedding jitters. The feelings are quite normal acting out on them is not. If you can not resist then you are not mature enough to be ready for Marriage. And be clear you don't NEED something else you want a way to alieviate your fears of a huge life commitment and change. Behave like the Man you know she deserves regardles of how you feel , if you can do that you should have a great marriage.
2007-02-14 19:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically, you are freaking out because you are making a commitment to be faithful to your fiancee'.
Did you think about the fact she's making the same promise to you (no other guys in her life to flirt with, etc.).
Talk to her about it. You might realize she is nervous too! And maybe you two can try a little role-playing to "pretend" you are not with the same partner (but I would think being just engaged she is really the one you want to show your love to!).
2007-02-14 19:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by Leslie K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its normal !! after all you will be with the same woman most likely for the rest of your life !! what a thought! but kool!
im married and i even still look we are men i just dont touch so once again its normal dude
2007-02-14 19:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by theriseradio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sleep w/ ur fiance
2007-02-14 19:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by Raisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋