I got a verbal "Happy Valentine's" from my husband this morning on the phone (he works out of state and we talk on his way in to work), but no card, no flowers, no email, etc. I am pretty hurt. Is this bad?
2007-02-14 10:59:19 · 14 answers · asked by KMB 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Because we only see each other on the weekends, and its nitetime, I know that no other packages/ etc. might come. He knows I have been upset in the past about this kind of thing.
Last weekend, in advance of Valentine's Day, I took him to a resort for the weekend, make him a special book of emails we had sent each other over the years, and got him some pajamas and other odds and ends. I put so much time and work into it, that I feel like to get nothing in return is a punch in the face.
2007-02-14 11:07:49 · update #1
Why do you need cards or flowers to know that he loves you? He works out of state- be glad he thought of you and called.
If I got cards or flowers for Valentine's Day (or any other occasion), I'd probably lecture the giver for wasting money on impractical things. Maybe your husband feels the same way and didn't see the point in spending money on things you don't need.
I know you can't help feeling hurt, but maybe you should reevaluate what's important to you in a marriage if you are this upset over not being given flowers. I'm sure your husband didn't mean to make you feel slighted. Men typically don't think of showing love in the form of gift-giving and they also don't attach a huge importance to days like anniversaries or Valentine's Day. They don't see any logic in making one day more special than any other.
2007-02-14 11:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by Venin_Noir 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to feel hurt. Valentine's Day is one day a year and he could have at least sent you a card. It sounds as if you've done quite a bit for him and he couldn't even take 15 minutes and at the very least get you a card. He could have done something simple like write a little "I love you" on a piece of scrap paper and hide it in one of your drawers for you to find. So many men are such idiots when it comes to Valentine's day. They don't realize that V day is not for them it is for the one's they love and they don't realize that something so simple can go so far. Some men get so caught up in rebelling against V day that they end up looking like idiots because of it. It doesn't even have to cost money. A little love note, email, something special that they don't do every day means so much. I say, "some men" because there are many out there that "get it" and do the simple things that mean the world.
I'm sorry that your husband is such a selfish *** about this day. Sounds like you need to do much less because obviously what you do is not appreciated.
2007-02-14 15:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, maybe he doesn't feel he has to show you he loves buy gifts. Maybe he has a surprise for you. Don't be mad, there are alot of men that don't want to do the flowers and candy thing just because they love you. Some do think this is a good way to be in good with their loved one. You're not alone. Happy Valentine's Day.
2007-02-14 11:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by justmmez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not particularly. You see, men think differently than women and as far as I know generally we consider Valentine's Day to be sort of pointless. It just feels so stupid to men to require anyone to express their emotions on a certain day every year. In fact, it would seem that having such a requirement would increase the quantity of insincere expressions of emotion, which no one, especially no woman, wants.
2007-02-14 11:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly fine to be upset. I would be also.
Maybe he is doing his Valentine's Day thing this weekend. Don't get mad at him, but I would be upset if I were you too.
2007-02-14 14:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by cdun1111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he know how you feel? Maybe he has a surprise planned for you.but if you normally celebrate this occasion then you are not wrong to be hurt. let him know how you feel. Personally I don't go for all the hype.. plus I hate those cinnimon candy hearts.. yuck.. happy VD day..
2007-02-14 11:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by No Religion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is bad. You say he works out of state. He should of took of and did something special. That was very men and a little selfish. He should of thought of you or you two.
2007-02-14 11:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's okay to feel bad, It's THE day to express your love. My fiance hasn't even told me Happy Valentine's, so I feel your pain.
2007-02-14 11:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At least your hubby told you that much... But the day for me is still not over, so I'm hoping when I get home from work, he will have done something.
2007-02-14 11:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by Just another opinion 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes this isnt really good if ur hurt cuz most husbands be ova seas and still call watever state they wifey is in and get flowers sent to her so i think its bad if ya are married and its really bad if u bought him somthin
2007-02-14 11:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by ~!Nesha!~ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋