We had been together 14 years and he had a history of lying to me and then promising he would change. We had been to 5 different marrige couselors during or relationship.
2007-02-14 10:36:47 · 12 answers · asked by kathy p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think that if he is still free and walking with no visible limps then you "UNDER" reacted!
2007-02-14 10:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by aleesha4u2see 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing anything more than that, I would say that you must divorce him and file criminal charges in order to protect your daughter and yourself.
Dishonest people are incapable of being full participants in a marriage as a marriage: it is a safety zone and a crutch for them, and he is using you. It is a very painful realization to know that someone you love is not capable of being trusted, and you may need to be protected from him.
This type of relationship destroys your and your daughter's full potential for life. It is a true abuse of the marriage, even if he does not verbally or physically abuse you: it is emotional dishonesty. You may be in great danger and not know it, because your love blinds you to the horrible possibilities. You have to let go of this before it destroys you.
I was married for over a decade, after dating my husband for 6 years. He filed for divorce in 2003 after a very emotionally painful marriage (for me; he was actually enjoying the torment and cruelty as a source of control), and in the end admitted that his desire to marry was deceitful (I was inheriting a very large amount of money after my mother, then my grandmother, then my father died in the period of less than 2.5 years while we were dating). It is unnecessary to explain the incredible pain and loss I was going through when my family members were sick and dying, and I was also going to university, working nearly full time, and trying to keep up with all the activities that I had to do, morbid things a young girl typically does not do, like arranging funerals and making legal decisions. I was a very optimistic, positive, and high energy person with a high work ethic. For me, marriage was all that the vows and the institution mean, and I never gave up, and always did my best. No matter how hard you work to make your marriage "good" and make it enjoyable and lasting, he is not honest and it is going to be like pouring your spirit into a bottomless abyss. I gave up my potential, my health, and my future for the sake of a compulsive liar passive-aggressive narcissist. In the end, once you uncover and face the truth (it took me years to understand the depths of his sickness and how it has damaged my life) you find yourself hating yourself for being a good person, for being strong, positive, and committed, and being your best and sharing it with such a monster. These things do not play out in courts, so there is no justice or compensation for the economic and emotional damage to your life and well being. There are some truly sick men in this world, and they need to be identified publically so that they cannot hurt others.
2007-02-14 11:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by PM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he molested your daughter you under reacted, if you are falsely accusing the guy of molesting you daughter you are worse than a child molester. The blogbaba considers such deviants beyond rehab and advocates capitol punishment for such crimes.
If a father monitors his children's Internet use, he's being a concerned parent. Believe it or not it is expected of parents to monitor their children's activities. If your husband is not the father of your daughter, find out what Mia Farrow did when Woody Allen went pervert and act accordingly.
2007-02-14 10:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by blogbaba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is "overreacting" when the words "cyberstalking" & "daughter" are used in the same sentence.
2007-02-14 10:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With a man like that, what took you so long to divorce him?
2007-02-14 11:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're WAYYYY exaggerating in your use of the word "stalking", the answer is obvious.
2007-02-14 10:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u serious? this is ur child. of cours u did the right thing. you never choose a man over ur child. wjat's wrong w/ you for even regreting ur descion.
2007-02-14 10:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by freedom fighter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with aleesha4u2see
2007-02-14 12:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by pumpkinautumn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SAY GOOD BYE! GO BE HAPPY WITH A GUY THAT IS NOT A FREAK!
2007-02-14 11:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he does nt want to seek help for his problems?, How can you help him? pray for him.....prayer opens the door for God to work in our lives......Jesus loves you
2007-02-14 10:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋