We have been divorced for 3 years... we want to raise the kids together... does this sound stupid?
2007-02-14 10:13:04 · 21 answers · asked by Danielle D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I hope things work out for you two. I hope though it is not just for the kids, because it is likely to stop working after the kids are gone. It also depends what circumstances happened to have the divorce. If you believe you can work things out go for it.
2007-02-14 10:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't sound stupid at all. It could even be a very smart decision (depending on why you divorced in the first place). If it was due to infidelity . . . well, maybe you've each learned the grass isn't always greener. If it was due to the two of you having communication problems, bickering, or just not appreciating each other in general . . . hopefully you have learned to communicate and to properly appreciate what you have both been through. If you have both been able to stay friends beyond the divorce you probably have a very good chance of making it the second time around. It sounds as though you have discussed this together, hopefully in detail. If you were to get back together and then split again, think of what you will put your kids through (again!). You could be setting them up for major trust and relationship problems later in their lives. But if you are both truly in it for the long haul and are willing to recommit - you may amaze yourselves and your children in a great way. Let's hope for the latter.
Blessed be to you both!
2007-02-14 18:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds every thing but stupid. It sounds hard, but worth it, it sounds scary but excitingly wise. Have you talked about everything? Sleeping arrangements? Sorry but I'm a horn dog. Have you discussed the financial situation? Who gets to budget? What happens if you two start being dysfunctional again? Do you go through the divorce again and really screw up the kids? Listen, it's great that you want to do this, really great! The problem is that you need to make sure that the problems that drove you two apart are resolved. Otherwise you will go right back to the same mistakes! Do you know the definition of insanity? It's doing the same thing over and over hoping for a different outcome. Resolve the issues then start you new beginnings!
2007-02-14 18:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to say if it sounds stupid or not. For me it would never happen. There was a reason I divorced my ex and considering that Hell itself hasn't frozen over in quite some time I would be right to assume he hasn't changed, and I know I haven't changed. So he and I getting back together would be pretty stupid. For you and YOUR husband only you and he can be the judge of that . But again, there is a reason you divorced in the first place.
2007-02-14 18:18:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't sound stupid. But there is a reason the two of you are ex's so I hope you sort out things the right way before getting back into a relationship so that it doesn't happen agian for the sake of your children because they are the ones that will be really hurt if things don't work out. I would take it slow. Start dating and getting to know each other agian.
2007-02-14 18:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound stupid. It sounds wonderful. Hopefully you both learned things from before that caused the divorce. This will make your kids so happy and you would have to agree that our kids happiness should be most important. Goodluck and follow through on the marriage vows this time.
2007-02-14 20:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by Tgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be married to raise kids together. It's stupid if your'e doing it only to raise the kids.
If you're willing to work things out, then by all means go for it. Remember why you got divorced in the first place....
2007-02-14 18:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by hotdocmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't sound stupid, but I hope that isn't the only reason you are going to get back together. Its a recipe for disaster, I would go to counseling before you get back together, and see if the therapist can give you any tools for making it work this time around.
2007-02-14 18:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by Christie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and I am really proud of you for trying again. I'm not at all religious but I feel like when you make the vow to be together you should do whatever you can to make it work (except in the case of domestic violence, ect) Try counseling or other types of therapy as you rebuild your connection.
2007-02-14 18:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by tustudent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounding stupid..and being stupid are two totaly different things. Why did you get devoced anyway? If its because of like, you hate your husband's habbit of always talking about having sex or he bows off all your money on gambing i dont think so. If its because you got into an argument about what tastes better, orange or clemintine..i think it might work
2007-02-14 18:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by Silvermace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋