Can't stop thinking about my first love since he contacted me recently to tell me his gf is having a baby...

Question

My ex-boyfriend, whom I was with for 3 years, and my first love contacted me for the first time in years about 6 months ago on my myspace account. He noticed that I was a mother and asked how motherhood was treating me, and how my life was, etc. He asked whether or not I was married and mentioned that he wasn't and that nothing had really changed since the last time we had spoken (3 years earlier when he told me that he and his gf at the time were splitting up). This last message he sent was to again say hello and ask how I was and then he stated that he is also going to experience parenthood soon, as his "girlfriend of over a year" is pregnant. My question is, why didn't he mention his girlfriend 6 months ago? And why is he contacting me? We broke up 10 yrs. ago. I thought it was probably just because he was being friendly, but since messaging him back he has not responded (same as last time). So, why the messages? And why no mention of his girlfriend 6 months ago? Thanks.

Answer 1

Well not sure why he's writing to you in the first place and not responding...that's weird. Guess he just wants to tell you all about his life maybe make things seem like everythings going great for him when it's probably not. Maybe he's not happy deep down inside. But who knows? maybe he hasn't received your message just yet, only way to really find out....log onto your myspace acct....go to your sent folder....find the message you wrote him....if it says read....then he got ur message.....if he hasn't then it would say sent. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

lets see my ex bf contacted me when he was spillting with his gf then.... n then tried to be all nice .. i thought he was being frndly too but then when i replied bac ( not tht i care abt him or anything) he also has stopped contacting me on his own... if i msg him to wish him bday or whtever he says hi hello but thts jsut abt it......... i didnt even realize a pattern there till i read ur question... maybe men r like tht............ maybe he is thinking u r getting the wrong signals or he jsut wanted to be a very far away kinda frnd... telling u abt latest developements in his life......... n suspecting tht u might try to get too close again he would have stopped replying but this is a very pessimistic view........ other view could be tht he jsut wanted to get on talking terms with u thts it!@ n now tht u replied to him he is satisfied n thts it end of story for him.. u should stop thinking abt him or y he tried talking to u... think of him as a stranger who u crossed on the street n smiled at... n moved on... no promises made nothing shared....

Answer 3

I am not sure why because all guys are different. but i dated a boy for 3 years and we broke up last year and i just heard hes geting married in three months!! and he hadnt contacted me since, when we broke up he kept contacting me to make sure i knew he had a GF, i think he wanted to feel better that he could move on without me even tho HE broke up with me and told people i am the one who broke up with him,. i dont understand it myself. but after almost 8 months of no speaking to each other i heard he is looking for me, and i dont know for what reason because from what I hear, him and his gf of 10 months are getting married in less than 3 months. men can be mysteries especially if they have sumthing to prove

Answer 4

Sounds like he is testing the waters. He does not appear to be entirely forthright, so I would expect some not so good surprises if you decide to get up with him. Sounds like he has baggage he wants someone else to handle for him. Personally, I wouldn't get too involved with him. Just be polite and leave it at that.

Answer 5

Hey you should forget him and start a new page in your love life.

Answer 6

maybe he just needs to know he still has a friend

Answer 7

hi!