how should i tell them??
i have thought bout it but i just cant think of a way to tell them...
2007-02-14 09:56:17 · 7 answers · asked by makemeup29 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
One option is to not make a big deal out of, and yet not lie to them. If they ask if you have a boyfriend say no and nothing else. If they ask if you're gay, then say yes.
Another option is to make a big deal out of it and do the whole coming out thing where you sit them down and go on about how you can't lie to them anymore and come out to them.
Another option is to lie to them and keep your personal life separate from your home life.
2007-02-14 09:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi there.
I'm 14 and I'm a lesbian as well. My mom found out a week ago that I was gay from a supposed "friend" of mine. Just for some advice, do not tell your mom if she is not going to accept it or is a homophobe. It takes a lot of courage to come out, trust me. Here's my advice:
If you're under 18, don't tell them. When you're 18, you'll be out of the house, so there is no risk of you being kicked out if that is a possibility. And, they can't do anything about it considering you are a legal adult.
If your parents are okay with homosexuality, tell them. They won't be like my mom who doesn't believe me and thinks I'm a psycho freak hopefully.
I'm here if you need to talk at anytime, just e-mail me, and I hope I could help you.
Best of luck to you, sweetie. :)
2007-02-14 18:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by Ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start thinking about what a mistake you are making and how long-term the effects are of this mistake. Then think doubly hard about the effects of breaking your parents hearts when you haven't really explored your chances of success with men. There are so many things that could be in your future that are positive and real. Think about how very important it is that you don't live a pretend life where you pretend to be a guy with a girl or she pretends to be a guy with you. Or you pretend that what you have isn't just roommates with some playing around. Or you pretend that you aren't the joke of the office because your girl friend wants you to be butch so you go with that.
Really, is it so hard to choose not to act out life as a freak show? Ever had a friend? Ever thought of friendship as a way to relieve your loneliness instead of playing 'hide the pretend-salami' with a playmate?
Get real with your life. Leave your parents out of it. They invested a lot of love and hope and you. You really want to deliver that fake existence known as 'dirty girls playing house' as the result of all their love?
Try guys. Try guys and keep trying.
2007-02-17 22:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are young, if you are living at home, do not tell them anything ... tmi! There will be plenty of time after you are grown and gone, and even then, only when there is a real reason. They do not tell you what they do in the bedroom, there is NO reason you should tell them. You could well end up on the streets if you tell them..not the best idea you have had.
2007-02-14 18:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit down with them and talk about it. They may not accpet it at first. Be patient, and let them adjust on thier own time. Dont rush them to accpet you right away. They will still love and care for you, just be understanding to thier feelings as well. They are parents so they will try to change your mind, stand tall and let them know you understand they need time to get used to it. In time they will be more and more accpeting to your lifestyle. My parents were not happy about my sister coming out at 18, I was her only support...but i told her, to let htem get used to her being gay. You cannot tell someone you are gay and expect them to say OK. Some folks dont understand it, and it takes them a little more time than others to get used to changes. Keep your head up and good luck to you!!
2007-02-14 18:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by Who Dat Chic!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer them a cold Bush Beer. Then show them the garage area.
Show them the tools in your garage.
When the see that they are all snap-on brand, they will understand.
2007-02-14 18:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't unless you know that they are cool, and that you have a backup plan of where to go if they become jerks. Another very good reason to try to go to college! Good luck!
2007-02-14 18:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋