I need some insight into women who date men with children....?

Question

I have absolutely no problem with a woman dating a man who has kids from a previous relationship, but I do wonder why some of them get so angry when that man than has to pay child support to the kids he is no longer living with. I guess as a woman, and a mom, i would feel like, hey its great that he is taking care of his responsibility, thats a mark in his favor.

This is a personal situation, and before anyone thinks I am jealous that my ex is dating another woman, let me tell you that I am the one who kicked him out after 9 years of constant abuse. If i feel anything for her it is pity, not jealousy. Anyways, now she is harassing me because he has to pay support for his two kids and he is not able to support her and her kid, that is NOT his. How can i deal with this woman without ripping her little twit head off?

I know its a bit Jerry Springer, but unfortunately it is what it is.

Answer 1

Your right, she's wrong, your going to have to rip her little twit head off.

Answer 2

You don't have to deal with her at all! She is not even married to your ex. Let him deal with her. And as long as he continues to pay his child support ( and you need to stay on him! don't let anything slide ) don't have anything to do with him except for something pertaining to your children. So kill the B**** with kindness! And the next time she tries to talk about something that has nothing to do with her. Tell her in a nice matter of fact way "since you and the ex aren't even married I don't even want to worry or burden you with the details. But if he would like to talk to you about it that's fine. But I don't feel comfortable getting into something so personal. I know you understand being a mother and all." And walk away or change the subject. And be firm about how you feel.
And why women don't support your husband helping you support your children because she is not a real woman! And she don't give a da** about your children so keep that in mind when sending your children over to their home. Good Luck and keep you Head Up!

Answer 3

That sucks. I have had some experience with this type of situation. The best thing to do is ignore her... that's about it.. if she thinks she is getting somewhere with you she will keep at it. You don't have to be nice. Just give her short answers and if she bugs you about it just tell her that you are not discussing it with her. This will undoubtedly tick her off, but just keep your cool. She is probably jealous of you on some level. If she keeps bothering you I would let your ex know that if she keeps it up you are going to file harassment charges against her.. after that it would lead to her not being allowed around the kids, etc. Maybe he will be able to talk some sense into her.

Answer 4

Call the twit up and tell her,"Listen sista gal..Get a Damm job! this is 2007, who the hell relies on a man to make sure the food is on the table?" You know what kind of man your ex is she doesn't. That's why you gotta let that man in that "BlackRobe" handle him when it comes to your money for your children. She's not a very sensible woman if you ask me...or a mature one either.

But that's just my 2cent's!

Answer 5

I'm dating a man with a child and have no problem with him paying his child support and his child spends every week-end in my home in the bedroom I designed for her after he moved in with me...the only problem I have with his ex is the fact that the cow feels the need to call every 5 minutes and demand to talk to their daughter...we simply take the phone off the hook now because she is jealous of the fact that he has moved on...and we refuse to deal with her. She uses the child support she gets to support her tanning, nail spa, hair bleaching, rent-to-own junkie habits...we buy all the clothing, shoes, school supplies, and pay for 100 % of the extra curricular activities as well as 100 % of the medical for the child...as far as I'm concerned...No one should have a problem with a man who is handling his financial responsibilities to his child...and it's a sorry excuse of a man who would let some selfish **** contact the mother of his child and make any statement or complaint whatsoever concerning his financial obligations and responsibilities to his child while attempting to claim she needs support for her own offspring...she should get that from the biological father if she knows whom that is...if not...she needs to get on some state funded program and stop pissing and whining to you about it...

Answer 6

If you are not yet married, please get a Virgo man! I have studied this for too long and have seen Geminis gravitate towards Saggitarius, and Virgos gravitate towards Capricorns, over time. We are earth signs, Virgo, Capricorns and Taurus, and we love order. Air signs Libra, Gemini, and Aquarius love 'freedom'. What we earth signs call stability, structure, order and accountability, air signs may eventually see as a threat to their 'freedom'. For this reason, our best match is our fellow earth signs, just not the same sign, because to much of the same is never a good thing!(I've dated a virgo man, and I'm a virgo woman. Never should have happened! (giggles)!) Geminis are best matches for Saggitarius because they share the same mind. If you do not want a broken heart, please do your homework. I've been there and done that, you don't want to hurt to much before making educated decisions.

Answer 7

She has nor reason to harass you. She should have knew his situation before she got so deeply involved. As long as he isn't the one with the problem it says to me that he is willing to handle his responsibilities in regards to his children at least. Tell him to talk to his new woman or tell her that you will press charges against her if she doesn't stop. I would love to tell you to ignore her but I know when people get under your skin like that it becomes another situation when things are easier said then done.
Can I borrow $20?

Answer 8

My guess is he's paying child support because he's legally bound to do so. As long as he continues, you've got nothing to worry about. His gf can get as upset as she wants.

Of course, there's no telling what he's told her about the situation, what you use the money for, etc. Think about it...she likely doesn't have the true story.

Answer 9

if by harrassing , you mean phone calls to your house, or work, then u could file legal action against her, or the simplest thing to do is hang up on her, and block your phone from excepting calls from her.
whatever you do, dont engage her in an argument, because theres nothing to argue about. what your ex owes you in child support is frankly none of her concern.
if shes coming to your house in person, then file charges against her for tresspassing/harrassment.
good luck!!

Answer 10

The 3 of you should probably have an open and honest discussion. Sometimes problems occur because of a lack of communication.

Answer 11

Indeed... it is the lifelong struggle over limited resources. I don't think there can ever be any resolution as long as one side still wants money. Just don't roll over. In the words of a Sheryl Crow song, "We do what we can..."