Is it the end?
I've not spoken to my close female friend for 2 months as we got to close.I told her that I wanted no contact so that I could get over my feelings for her. She only wanted to be friends.
I've tried to get bck in touch as I've got over her now and I'm interested in another girl.I've apologised if I wasn't tactful in the way I said I wanted no contact for awhile
She's txt bck:i really do not have the energy to keep explaining things to you.I will be civil but i'm afraid i feel the close friendship is lost,try to move on please,all the best in life
Never be friends again?
Why she like this - she wanted to be friends....surely she'll still not be hurting from me not wanting no contact for awhile........?
Seeing her on Friday-said she'll be civil.Advice on how to cope?
p.s. her comment of not having energy to keep explaining things to me is when she didn't want to further than friends---THAT WAS 3 MONTHS AGO!!!
2007-02-14 09:32:17 · 6 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It is going to take more time than this for the both of you to have a perspective on this and have, possibly, the friendship you want. I have sort of been there and I learned that lots of time both heals and gives perspective. Be patient and do look around for new romantic interests. You may be talking to this friend someday about the girl you want to marry. I am betting that she will be sincerely happy for you.
2007-02-14 14:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girls have a way of forcing your hand at making certain aspects of the relationship that you cannot control a fixation, so you'll get bent out of shape because you don't have the upper hand, and she keeps control over the relationship. If she is the one that wanted to be friends she should be the one with the issues over whether or not she thinks the friendship should continue, not you. You probably didn't even want to be friends with her and ended up doing so because she wouldn't allow it to go any further, so now you're in a position where you have to decide between the lesser of two evils, which you have already done months ago, just to do it all over again, until you've nothing left. The more that you show that you care the less you'll end up with; instead of fighting with her over the nuances of the friendship you should fight for what you really want and really need out of the relationship to begin with. If you can't get it from her and she isn't willing to work with you then you should move on. It's happened to me too many times to count, you get better at it with time though it hurts now but you'll be ok.
Your first mistake was telling her more than what she needed to know and disclosing that you couldn't handle the intimacy of the friendship because you were dealing with the closure of the fact that you couldn't be with her. The second was trying to explain to her what was already well understood; if you have another girl, why do you care what this first girl thinks?? Get back in good with the new girl, before she figures out what's up and you'll be completely and utterly alone all over again, and then you'll have to crawl back to the first girl and beg to get your job back ...
2007-02-14 17:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Son of Mary! Been there, done all that! Happened to me once or twice! Back off, man! I'd say a year or two might help! She obviously doesn't want to be friends with you anymore! So why even try to force it? Why try to fix something broken by breaking it more? Get my point? Just cool your jets, man! It maybe hard, but as I've said, been there, done all that.
2007-02-14 18:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advice? Yes, like she said, move on. Why do you want to force a friendship she doesn't care to have? If someone doesn't want to be your friend then let it go. Trust me you will meet many many more girls in the future. No need to ponder over the "if's" or "why's" of this one. Just look at it as her loss not yours. Sometimes one doesn't have to do anything wrong for something not to work out or for another person to "freak".
2007-02-14 17:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by LM 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When a girl tell you she only wants to be friends it means I am not that into you, in other words you're ok but..., that's why she's moved on. Guys are more susceptible to fall in love for some reason,let go and focus on a new relationship.
2007-02-14 21:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by Georgewasmyfavorite 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, and she's being petty.
2007-02-14 17:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋