He lives in Egypt and he is Muslim. I have been talking to him for 2 years and I love him and he likes my kids and my kids like him. I think about him all the time. I wish he was here. I don't don't know what to do.
2007-02-14 09:28:31 · 8 answers · asked by tweetkimber 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do whatever you feel is right for you and your kids. Good luck.
2007-02-14 09:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say this. Where is the relationship headed to? You have two options
1) He can come to you and relocate here and marry you.
2) You are going to have to move over there and marry him.
Now the problem with option one is that if he isn't a citizen, you may have to aid him in coming here. This requires money among other things. I would also be cautious because there are cases of people who use others to become citizens. He may be one of those or he may not be. How much do you know about him or his life in Egypt. If he comes to you, how would you two live or how will he support you or even deal with your family?Have you had a chance to speak to his family? Is he already married and if not why? These are some questions that you may have to figure out.
As for option two, I dont know if you want to uproot yourself and all you know to move to Egypt.You also have the kids to worry about. You dont know anyone there apart from him and what he has told you. You have to do your research.There is the diff in culture and religion and it may be more pronounced over there for you and your kids.What do the laws of the country say and can they protect you in your time of need.
Am sure all I have said may seem all negative but it is good to give yourself a good reality check before going on with your relationship. He may be a good man but you have to really dissect the relationship and cover your own butt by finding out more info.Am sure this two years have formed an attachement for both sides. The question is what do you think will work for you and him.
All the best!
2007-02-14 18:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget that he is Muslim and lives in Egypt...he's a MAN!!!!! I would never get married again. Marriage is just enslavement for women...I would be afraid to end up a "slave" again...doing all the cooking, cleaning, running the kids...I do this now, why would I add a husband to the work? Plus, I would be afraid he would be abusive to my kids, even if he is nice now, step fathers are almost always abusive. Find out how far he is willing to go for you. Make him beg you to marry him and promise you the world and give you presents and romance you. Then ask him to watch the kids while you go get your hair done. Then see if he will coach a little league team or do Boy Scouts with them, while you stay home with the other kids. Make him clean the house, make him cook you dinner, push him until he cracks...it won't take long, then you'll know marrying him is not right! Enjoy the romance, the marriage is never worth it!
2007-02-14 17:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very difficult question.
You need to look at several things and be honest with yourself.
What is the longest period of time you have actually been together?
Could you move to Egypt and deal with all that that would entail?
Culturally, how different are you?
If it were me, even if I did marry him, I wouldn't allow him to adopt my children. If for any reason he took them to Egypt and decided he didn't want to come back, it would be almost impossible to win custody in an Egyptian court.
I believe in true love, just be careful
2007-02-14 17:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ooh, Ooh pick me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then i would say no, don't marry him. You say that you have been 'talking to him for 2 years' - have you even met him?
Also take into account your differing cultural and religious beliefs and whether you could live in Egypt or whether he could be using your relationship to get into your country.
2007-02-14 17:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by Linda T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, he probably just wants a visa. Do you know anything about Muslims? First of all, 99% of them only marry muslims, not americans. We are SSSOOOO different.
Our religion is different, our way of thinking is different, women are below the man. Woman come 2nd.
Please dont make a mistake, you have 2 kids.
they come first, forget marrying this man.
No offense to muslims.
2007-02-14 20:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally up to you hon. Follow your heart on this one. If you want to marry him then you need to do everything you can possibly do to get him here or you go there to do this. Does he want to move here or does he want you to move over there? How is he going to get over here? Have you guys made plans to do that yet? Have you ever even met in person yet? I suggest you at least meet in person and get to know each other that way before marrying.
2007-02-14 17:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your thinking about then I and need ppl that don't know you or him to help then don't do it... If you thought it was the right thing to do you would be tellin everyone that your going to marry him.
2007-02-14 17:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋