I'm in a relationship with someone that I love very much and I know he loves me.The thing is, he works alot and I hardly ever see him or spend time with him anymore.He called me this morning and told me happy valentine's day and he said that I shouldn't feel down because I know that he loves me but he's been working alot.We don't live together and that makes it even harder.Why do I still feel so disgusted and sad?I hate this feeling....I don't know what to do with myself.
2007-02-14 09:22:39 · 37 answers · asked by missraynell07 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
no no no
gee he phoned you, you have no doubt he loves you, and you love him. dont be blue! i know its tough, the big hul-a-ba-loo going on every year in the media and the darned shops suggesting if he loves you he'll buy this or that and there is ALWAYS someone ready to brag about the big expensive gifts they got, but who cares!
you have his heart already and he has yours................happy valentine's day sweetie!
2007-02-14 09:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a common problem of indecision and lack of direction with the relationship.You may have reached a crossroads in your life because you are thinking beyond what you have now.The Valentine day disappointment is the tip of the scale.Logical reasons don't make much sense where love is concerned but we need logic,it is our reasoning power and allows us to fully understand where we are,your feeling of sadness is an indication of something lacking in your relationship. Maybe it is time to make a stand and tell him what you want. Modern day life swamps our freedom ,hard work and endeavor is a constant battle and leaves time for little else.Inspiration is needed here to restore the balance to your relationship. I feel it is major decision time for both of you. Look at your options, do you still want the same things, do you want to get married, do you want children, where would you like to live, would you like to live together.? Has he discussed his aims or Ideals just lately or is he just existing.Is he really happy with what he is doing, do you enjoy your job,home life,?? I hope some of these ideas help you!! No you are are not to wrong to feel the way you do ,simply put,I feel you are missing out on something and you and he need to search together for that New Beginning.!!! Good luck... Be positive.!!!
2007-02-14 10:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am gong to tell you that Valentine's Day is really overrated and it is such a commercial windstorm set up for Hallmark, candy makers, balloon sellers and lingerie stores to make their keep one time a year. Don't feel bad. I was just telling a friend of mine here at work (who doesn't have a Valentine) that for years and years I never had a Valentine. In high school when everyone else was sending balloons and flowers to each other, I never once got one. Nor in college. Nor after college. It wasn't until my last boyfriend and current boyfriend that I had a Valentine. But I got through it. I know it's hard watching everyone else gush about their sweet Valentine's candies and hearts and stuff, but the day will pass. I think that you should really feel bad if he were not putting aside time or thought or money for your birthday or Christmas.
Feel better honey - you are not alone!!
2007-02-14 09:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be sad, the day isn't over yet! Maybe he has a surprise planned for later. Remember that he called especially to say he loves you, that counts for a lot. In the meantime, you can be good to yourself. Take a hot bath and give yourself a manicure or pedicure, that always cheers me up. Watch a funny movie, call a friend, eat some chocolate!
I know it's a day for couples but you can still have a good evening on your own. Take care of yourself and best wishes to you.
2007-02-14 09:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you know deep down he is pathetic. His working alot is a lame excuse for not getting you anything. And i mean ANYTHING! Working alot means he has extra money for a gift, even a small one. It only took me 5 minutes today to go on line to yellowpages.com and look up a local florist and order a dozen red roses and have them delivered to my EX husband work! It took me 10 minutes to find out the address to his work that is unlisted. He is only a friend. No one works 24 hours a day. There is at least an hour in one's schedule to set aside for this love he tells you that he knows you know about of him towards you. Perhaps he is trying to convince you too. No it doesn't take expensive gifts, but how about even a card or he could even pick a flower. I have had boyfriends who had no money or time and on the way home they picked wildflowers for me on the side of the road and handed them to me.
When you say you do not live together, does that mean he is far away? There is absolutely no reason why he cannot send a card to you. And there is no reason why you shouldn't feel disgusted and sad!
2007-02-14 09:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by LM 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont torture yourself about Valentines day. If he is like me, he probably will forget about it, especially if he works a lot of hours.
Dont sweat it. When you get older and wiser you will see that this is a small thing.
There may be something else bothering you, could be depression or anxiety. Try to step back and see this in the larger picture. He may surprise you with something yet.
Have a happy Valentines day.
2007-02-14 09:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha well at least you are lucky to have someone unlike me. You have no idea what depressed is compared to me either. If I was with you I would say screw work and spend the time with you
sorry I just get so depressed,sad, and mad because I am so alone. I do not mean to spaz out on you
2007-02-14 09:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by Bullz_ eye 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel down, plan something special to do with him tonight. It doesnt have to be anything expensive or extravegant. Just an amazing night together. Maybe fulfil a fantacy of his or ask him to fulfil a fantacy of yours and guilt him into it by saying "That could be my Valentine's present".
2007-02-14 09:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes because it is the one day in the year,when your partner or husband etc should try to show you how much you mean to him IE--taking you somewhere special ,spending time with you and buying you a little something nice [even just a card ].but try not to feel sad lots of people won`t get anything but their loved just the same.
2007-02-14 09:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he loves you. dont worry about that. it can be a bit hard since it seems that everyone is getting gifts or they're going to go out to dinner with their gf/bf. but dont worry! im sure he will surprise you with something. even if it isnt on valentines day.
valentines day shouldnt be the day you ONLY get gifts or should feel more loved or however people feel with their "loved one". in that case. you should feel like that EVERY day.
i wish you luck!
2007-02-14 09:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not worth it to get upset! Why don't you go out with your friends and have a good time. Besides V day is not just only a holiday for lovers, it is also a day that you share with people that you care about and love.
2007-02-14 09:27:12 · answer #11 · answered by Dont Ask 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋