Me and my wife are getting a divorce and this pain will not got away i still love her so much. I feel like this pain will be here forever.
2007-02-14 08:50:21 · 9 answers · asked by 1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there brother. It sucks, but believe me life will go on. Everyone told me that, and I didn't believe them, but it eventually does. I refused to go to counseling because I thought it wouldn't help. I would do it if I had it over again. I don't know when, but you'll be fine one day. There is no getting over the pain though, and I think you need to grieve. Best of luck man, I feel for you.
2007-02-14 08:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain will either lessen, be repressed, but rarely does it ever completely go away. Even after it DOES go away, something will trigger it from time to time. I don't mean to make you feel worse, I'm just giving you an answer that is based on psychological information, ANd personal experience.
Even if the pain goes away, and you move on.... you'll still be scarred one way or another, and permanently, internally- damaged somehow. It may not be obvious, or direct, but it's definitely there. Marriages or relationships that go wrong are usually the cause or the root of trust issues, and things like that...
So bottom line: The pain will go away, but you'll still be scarred because you're parting from the person you once promised to spend the rest of your life with, and it failed.
2007-02-14 09:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by Nini says: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the circumstances of your divorce, not that it matters - hurt is hurt. It takes a long time for the pain to go away but take one day at a time. Time does heal - you won't forget it but you will be able to function and get on with your life. Take the time to figure out who you are and what you want. Don't dwell on past mistakes because they are done and you can't go back. Focus on good changes and maybe there is someone better for you. (You sound like a good man so I am sure good will come to you).
2007-02-14 09:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 03:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by rambhul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you and your wife divorcing? If it is so painful then why dont you try to work on the marriage so this does not happen? Have you both tried marriage counseling yet? Have you talked with her and told her how hurt you are and that you still love her? I feel you should be telling her this and communicating with her. She may have no idea how you feel.
2007-02-14 09:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is joining 2 people together and when you divorce it's like ripping 2 pieces of glued paper apart - it's a mess and you will always have a part of that person with you.....
It will take time - nothing can take the place of time.
2007-02-14 08:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it will eventually go away...with time...
The hardest thing about ending a relationship is the haunting of the good times...when your in the relationship its easy to pick out the bad things in it...but once its over all you can think of are the good things...
Your sure its over/ Theres no possible way on this green earth that you can work it out??
tell her how you feel no matter how hurt or angry you are..never say mean things in the heat of the moment...look past your pride and just let it all spill out...
Then step back and let her make her choice..as hard as it may be...yes its possible shes making a foolish mistake..and it hurts like hell..thats the problem with loving someone..they have free will to make whatever choice....
but support that choce..you dont have to like it..but be calm...be sad...but go on..let time tkae its course...and who knows..maybe she will change her mind
2007-02-14 08:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by Berge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take some time, but yes, the pain should go away.
2007-02-14 08:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will go away, you just have to give it time. Now you can do things that you have always wanted to do but didn't because you were married. Start moving on and you will be happy.
2007-02-14 08:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋