Do you have a problem with clingy people? You see someone and they think that you are going to leave your spouse for them. They want to chat with you all the time. I am a very upfront person and let them know that I am very happily married and I don't want to talk to them all the time, that this is just about sexual variety, but they just don't get it. My hubby also has the same problem.
2007-02-14 08:47:44 · 15 answers · asked by sexyladyinak 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should try swinging with other couples, Then hopefully you wont have the attachment problem.
2007-02-14 08:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by I Like Grapes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that they feel you will leave your spouse for them. I don't know any swinger that does. I think it has more to do with sharing a very personal part of their life with you and wanting a little more connection with you so they don't feel like they are just another notch on your bedpost.
It's really easy to make friends in the lifestyle because of this. You intimately know someone, and for many it takes something besides physical attractiveness for them to want to get naked with another couple. There has to be that mental connection, also.
You probably look at it differently. You probably don't need that, so their behavior seems strange to you. It sounds to me like you are in it for the physical aspect and don't care much for the friendship aspect outside the bedroom.
Everyone does it differently.
This is where it's important that you have the boundaries laid-out in advance. You have to let other couples know that although you are really attracted to them physically that you really don't need a friendship with them outside the bedroom. That way, they don't become what you identify as "clingy" and they don't think there is more there beyond sex. Also, they can look for couples that are more in alignment with their needs from the lifestyle.
2007-02-15 00:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a big difference between going to Vegas with your wife or hubby, leaving the kids with grandma, dressing sexy, going to a club, meeting another couple, and mixing it up in the back of a limo at 3am then saying goodbye afterwards -vs- inviting the same 3-4 couples over to your house week after week for BBQs, birthdays, and gangbangs. If it's just about the sex, then keep it about the sex. Anything more and you have all the ingredients for complications.
2007-02-14 08:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
swingers and open marriages are not really the norm so these people aren't so much clingy as hopeful that you are just saying you are happily married and that you are going to find them the greatest thing since sliced bread and leave for them. They don't understand what swinging and open marriages are about they might say they do but they don't.
2007-02-14 08:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Haven't seen a question like this before; not sure what its connection is with swinging.
I've certainly known "clingy" people that had nothing to do with the swing lifestyle; I don't think they're indigenous to swinging.
I guess you just have to make it very plain to those people to bug off. It's been my experience that they just don't "get the message."
2007-02-14 09:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
To avoid this situation in the future, I would swing with other swingers. You know...people who understand the lifestyle and the rules that go with it.
2007-02-14 09:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-28 02:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i do that is why i do the following i use a e-mail adress only for this activity or type of activity then i closley monitor ie archive my yahoo messanger with this person if they get to clingly or the such i block them i meet first without sex etc good luck any more questions regarding this matter as since she does not know i particapate in thi sactivity i am on yahoo as marinechef2003 for this subject good luck
2007-02-14 08:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by Mark R 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
explain although your marriage is open it is solid and you are not looking for a permanent change just the odd fling .
2007-02-14 08:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Clingy Swingers....GROSS!
2007-02-14 08:54:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋