I met a guy this weekend and I like him a lot. We spent the entire weekend with eachother and things are working out good so far. One little problem is that I'm 4 months pregnant with my ex's baby. He's ok with it but I don't want him to feel that he has to be a part of the baby's life. I'm having an adoption but I will still be able to see the child. I feel that me being with him will help my feelings about the situation and help him feel more comfortable around me
2007-02-14 08:46:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
it is ok. you should be thankful that you found someone who makes you happy and they are ok that you are going to have a kid. most guys shy away from girls who have or are going to have a child. you are lucky. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-14 09:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistically: If you're under age 17 and pregnant, there's a very good chance you'll be pregnant again in a couple of years .... unless you do things differently in the future than you did in the past.
I'm thinking that if you've only known this guy for a weekend and you're already planning on still being with him after your baby is born, and you hope he will make you feel better about the adoption, then maybe this would be a good time to ask yourself if you're repeating any patterns.
Patterns like: Falling in love with a guy too fast. Or getting intimate with a guy too fast. Or thinking that a guy will kind-of sort-of take the emotional place of a baby.
I'm not saying this to make you feel bad. For one, I really support you in considering an adoption plan (when I know that people around you may not be supportive of this). Two, I would really hate to see you in the predicament of a second pregnancy before you're ready.
2007-02-14 12:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Rienzi H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm quite specific she will p.c. for herself despite if she needs her infant or no longer, sheesh. If she does not p.c. an abortion, you need to not push her to get one. except you have been pregnant, you haven't any longer any theory what its like. and you do no longer could marry her in case you're no longer mushy with it... basically be an part of your youngster's existence. An unhappy marriage and later divorce is so lots greater unfavourable to a infant than a father that has partial custody first of all. i don't comprehend if a court docket would be prepared to paintings out custody to you or the type you will try this, yet once you may get it in a binding settlement, it would probable be greater valuable. as a strategies via fact the previous eating affliction stuff, basically confirm your well-being care provider is conscious approximately it so as that if something does not look amazing, you may get her and the infant help. sturdy success.
2016-10-02 03:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by rambhul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, nothing like jumping from the frying pan into the fire !!
You're pregnant (stressful) and planning to give the baby up (really stressful and you may change your mind on that in the next 5 months), you just split up with a man (stressful) and you're already in someone elses arms?
How about giving yourself a break and some time to think about what you really want to do before things get even more complicated. Perhaps some time not being with someone and having a good chat with an objective third party (counselor) about what you have been through and will be going through in the next 5-6 months.
GOod luck
2007-02-14 08:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by PamV 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well...you should be happy that you found someone is comfortable with the idea that you are pregnant. I do know what you are feeling I am 7 months pregnant with my ex boyfriends baby, he does not plan on being there for me or my baby. But, on the bright side I do have someone there for me, my boyfriend, he is planning on being my babies father figure. So, as long as he is comfortable with you being pregnant, I am 100% sure that it is okay for you to be with him.
As I sign off i am wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy, as well as a good luck to you and your baby.....
I hope it all works out for you.
2007-02-14 11:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have taken responsibility for your unborn baby, and I give you a lot of credit for making that tough choice, and you deserve to move on with your life in the meantime. Given the fact that the guy is completely aware of your pregnancy and your adoption plans, I do not think there's anything wrong with entering into the relationship.
2007-02-14 09:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been up front with him...he is aware you are pregnant with another mans child...it will be only for another 5 months...then you can devote all your time to the new relationship. There's nothing wrong with it at all.
2007-02-14 09:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope your ex is fine with you putting the baby up for adoption. Yes it is ok.
2007-02-14 09:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad. Be thankful you've met someone who makes you happy.
Good luck and good health to you and your baby.
2007-02-14 08:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly fine. He's okay with it and that doesn't usually happen. You are lucky.
2007-02-14 08:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋