The girls are 18 and 20.
2007-02-14 08:46:20 · 5 answers · asked by LAUGHING MAGPIE 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Don't worry. As long as your boys aren't getting into drugs, or anything like that, they will most likely be fine. I'm sure that you had problems with your daughters when they were 13 and 14 also.
The point is give them time, and your boys will be fine. When I was 13, I did loose some of my drive to do homework and stuff like that, but as I got older, it got better. (I'm sixteen now) Don't worry. Good luck.
Keifer
2007-02-15 01:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by keiferalbin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to speak in generalities, so excuse me but...
Girls tend to be motivated by pleasing others while boys need internal motivation.
For example, if you have a boy and girl around the same age and you tell them that if they learned to play the cello it would make you happy, the girl is more likely to learn it just to please you. The boy is likely to learn to play only if he is internally motivated to do so - because he wants to do it.
The trick with boys is to either 1) let them evolve as they will or 2) find something that motivates them so you can tie in other requirements.
For example you might say, "I'll be happy to drive you to your friend's house as soon as you clean your room."
You can also let them have natural consequences which can help them get motivated. For example, my son wants to learn to drive. I told him I'd be happy to take him to driving lessons as soon as 1) he has a 3.5 GPA and 2) he has the money to pay for the lessons. He's motivated enough that the grades are coming up and he's doing odd jobs for people to save money for lessons.
I learned this technique from Parenting with Love and Logic which has been really helpful for us. They have a book specifically for teens as well.
2007-02-14 22:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys are differnt than girls...they are just being adolesent boys...give them time...as they get older they may show a little more drive...I wouldn't nag them..they might rebel and have even less drive.
2007-02-14 17:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the boys realize that you favor your daughters. Obviously you do. You don't say anything nice about your sons. Children live up to what they are taught. It's up to you to show them how to have that drive. I feel sorry for your boys.
2007-02-14 17:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
boys are different than girls. they only want to be cool. cross your fingers and hope for a drive, but dont count on it... boys usually wanna take shortcuts.
2007-02-14 16:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋