I have been married for almost two years...and I love the woman with all of my heart. However, when I go on business trips for a night or two, I seem to get a LOT better sleep by myself. So I am thinking of turning my house into a place where I can sleep by myself. I am thinking of giving her the upstairs, and I'll take the downstairs. We can still make a sexy time whenever we feel like it, but then we can just float into our own areas, and meet back up in the morning. Great idea, or greatest idea?
2007-02-14 08:36:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
great then take showers together drink wine
2007-02-18 06:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would just depend. My hubby and I normally sleep in the same bed, but there are times where I have to sleep in a chair, so when that happens, he moves to the couch in the same room with me. Sometimes we will even sleep on the same couch....but I don't know if you know how uncomfortable that can be (especially on hot days). Making that arrangement though can have two or three effects:
1. Your wife thinks she has did something wrong
2. Your wife finds someone else
3. Your wife wont mind at all
Best thing to do is talk to her and explain your reasons. Ask her, that is not a decision women all the time understand. She could think you have started cheating with her and for good reason on her part. It can come across as you wanting to distance yourself away from her. As I said talk to her about it, but limit it to maybe a den to get away once in awhile and do not sleep without her alot. Women can be very hands on and they like knowing that the person they love is there when they wake up. Also consider a queen or king. We have a king and he gets his space when he wants and I get mine.
2007-02-14 16:52:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have only been married a short time,it's understandable that you probably have to get comfortable with the idea that you have to share your sleeping space now. I can relate to what your saying, as far as getting a better night's sleep by yourself. If she goes for your idea, I say go for it,it might keep the spark in your marriage.You could make a game out of it as well,like secretly meeting each other for a romantic night together. It would be like dating each other while your married,she would have the comfort of the romance and you would have the comfort of sleeping alone. Good luck, hope she likes your idea.
2007-02-14 16:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welllll, I'd say you aren't getting a full night's sleep probably because you're still going through the adjustments of being together, you know? I would not rec a seperate area etc. I've been in relationships and in one now where I haven't or don't get a full night's sleep because I'm still trying to get used to things =) It's not a bad thing, just something couples go through =) Take a Tylenol PM or something just for a time if you think you need it. Good luck and let me know!
2007-02-14 16:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally up to you but make sure to talk with your wife about it first and see if she is open and agreeable to this idea. I myself would not like this idea because i like my husband by my side during the night and i miss him when he is gone and i cannot sleep good when he is not there. He is the same way. Why do you need a who floor to yourself though. Just a bedroom each would be good if this is what you want. You will become more or less strangers if you each live in half a house. This is like being seperated except for sex only. Kinda odd to me and I just dont get it. I feel you will become more distant this way and like strangers. Course this is JMHO. I feel that sleeping in seperate beds is not good for a marriage anyways. I agree with what you are saying sad but true.
2007-02-14 17:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to consider what the real issue is. If either one is having an issue with snoring or tossing and turning or some other aliment, wouldn't want to solve that before splitting up rooms? You might want to consider if additional help in the relationship is necessary at this time. We all have issues and up and downs during a marriage, that normal. It's working thru them together that is really important. Sex is't the issue, the closeness is.
2007-02-14 16:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may think that it would be good for your sleep, but it will end up creating seperatness in your marriage.
Maybe just consider getting a bigger bed. But moving downstairs is generally not a heatlhy move.
2007-02-14 16:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Bearess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sleeping in a twin bed? Does your wife have feet that smell that bad?
I can assure you that this is a VERY bad idea and your wife will not react well. Trust me - if you aren't in the bed, someone else will be!
2007-02-14 16:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
terrible. terrible terrible terribl. Know a couple who divorced shortly after this. Just take a business trip once a month and get some sleep.
2007-02-14 16:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it doesn't sound like you have sex much so have it more often.
Buy a bigger, wider bed and earplugs.
You married to be with her, not to be with her but sleep elsewhere.
Might want to ask yourself--is it her?
2007-02-14 16:45:26 · answer #10 · answered by Lauran B. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd just get a really big bed. I cannot imagine not sleeping with my fiance.
2007-02-14 16:40:48 · answer #11 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋