Everybody dislikes me at school?

Question

I am a really cool and tall guy at school I can really do my math fast and I dont know everybody dislikes me and I have barely friend every time they forget homework they ask me for to show and I show them my answers and when they need a pencil or paper or eraser or additional help they ask me for it and when I ask something they are rude to me and really mean and if I ask for something before I can finish my sentence they tell me to shut up and I feel bad and I like to help them because they are helpless. And some of them really hate me.I dont why? and I am they guy who never had a girlfriend and my age is 13.

Answer 1

hmmmmm tough one, but with writing like that, i bet your teachers hate you too

Answer 2

Sweetie, I wouldn't worry about girlfriends at your age! You'll have plenty when you get older! Some day a girl will see you for who you are and want to be your girlfriend!
I'm sorry you don't have any 'real' friends! They are far from being helpless, they are using you because they don't want to do their own homework! Don't give them any more answers! They are all capable of doing their own homework! If they are not responsible enough to come to class prepared, that is not your problem. You are not helping them by giving them answers and supplies! That is not your responsibility!
Study hard, get a good education, go to College and make something of yourself!

Answer 3

As I was reading your question, I began thinking that this guy's in junior high. When you ended with your age, I wasn't surprised. Personally, I think junior high should be cancelled! Many of the kids do not know how to make or keep friends, and their hormones are bouncing all over the place, often in your face. What's happening here is that word has gotten out that you're a smart kid. Everyone wants to be your new best friend, so that they can get their needs met. Most kids your age are only interested in things that make their own world spin better, and what makes them look good. They want your answers, pencils, erasers, paper and anything else you're willing to give 'cause they're selfish ingrates. If you said no, you'd be better off. At least you'd know for sure who your friends were, and wouldn't be kept wondering if someone liked you for you or for your stuff. While it's very unselfish of you to want to help them, they don't deserve your help, nor is it good for them. You're just enabling them to continue using others to prop up their own sagging egos...and grades. It's like propping up an old shed. Take away the prop and the whole thing comes crashing down. It's time for you to remove yourself from propping them up. Let them find out how much they really need help. When they can act like a human being, maybe you can help them then. Why do they hate you? 'Cause they're selfish, childish, users. They use you 'cause you let them. And the more you let them, the more contempt they'll have towards you. Don't despair about not having a girlfriend. At your age, they're pretty useless anyway. While it's not true of EVERY kid your age, most of them don't handle relationships very well. Just throw yourself into doing very well in school. Get the best education you can. That's where your future is at. When you graduate with several scholarships, at the top of your class, it's your future that will be looking the brightest. Those who didn't learn that education is where their future is at will be living with Mommy, girlfriend, or in some dive somewhere, searching through couch cushions for cigarette money. Just keep up your studies. And stop propping up those users. Just say no. When they ask you why, tell them they need to come to school prepared to learn, as it teaches them how to be prepared in the real world of life as an adult. If they want your answers, tell them you'll be glad to set up a tutoring appointment with them, to help them understand their assignment, so that they'll be self-sufficient in the future. When they find out that you're no longer trying out as their personal doormat, they might start respecting you, though that might take longer to get. In order to get respect, you've got to respect yourself. Respect yourself enough not to allow yourself to be used by others around you. Help those who really need help, but only enough that they're doing most of the work. Never help someone to the extent where their feet are dangling, 'cause you're doing all the work. <*)))><

Answer 4

Hey I haven't had a boyfriend yet and I'm 12 1/2 I'll be 13 on june 1st.
Anyway its kinda ironic because you sound like me a little before I moved.
Sorry, anyway try this just be yourself and still help them but when they make fun of you or tease you or tell you to shut up ignore them, and act like you don't care what they say. Thats what I did and it worked they left me alone and I made a lot of new friends. Also I think you have a click infestation a.k.a. people who will try to make your life a living hell. But some of them are just following the leader bnecause they are afraid the leader will make their life worse than a living hell.
P.S. if you wanna talk to me heres my e-mail
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Answer 5

Because you are letting them walk all over you. Stop that. Do I need to come over there and slap your hand. When they ask you for something, you need to tell them no. They are not going to learn if you do it all for them. Things will change when you get older. Find a kid who is in a similar position and befriend them. You don't need to worry about girls right now. Most people shouldn't have relationships your age anyway. They may no like you more if you tell them no, but they will learn not to walk all over you. I know you think if you do something nice, they will like you back, but that is rarely the case. Someone who uses you are not going to be your friend, nor would you want them to.

Answer 6

Thats no fun... I agree that they are just using you for when they need something... I have been the one being used, too. Just keep confident. Don't be completely rude to them but sometimes you need to say no. They see that they can use you and you are letting them.... By saying no, you are showing them that you are recognizing what is going on and you're not "desperate" for friends. Keep focused on your school work and don't worry about jerks like them. Don't worry about the girlfriend thing either... She will come along eventually... You're only 13, you have plenty of time left for that. :)

Answer 7

Listen, the kids who ask you for stuff are using you. You are smart and they see you as a smart geeky guy. YOU ARE MORE THAN THAT. Do not help those Losers anymore, they are jealous of your intelligence.

Find some groups you can join in school, church, or your community to meet other people. Small groups help people to get to know you better and truly see the person inside.
Talk to an adult. Dad, Mom, Aunt, Uncle, Grandparents, they can give you one - on- one advice.

Good Luck. Puberty sucks, but we all get through it.

Answer 8

Oh honey, I need to hook you up with my friend Matt (no, that didn't sound right- you two need to talk or something- you have the same exact problem. At first I wondered if this was him posting that). The fact that you specifically pointed out that you've never had a girlfriend makes me think that you worry a lot about who likes you and who wants to be your friend. There's nothing wrong with that. It sounds like a lot of people are jerks to you, and that's really not your fault at all. Do you know anyone else that doesn't feel like they have friends? A lot of the time it helps to be able to talk to somebody who has similar problems to you. You probably aren't aware of how many people in your school feel the same way you do. You're really not alone with this. I've told my friends this over and over, if you need to talk to someone, the guidence counsilor is always willing to listen. It's their job. If getting out of class to talk to him/her seems like a problem, I garuntee that if you tell your teachers that you need to talk to the guidance counsilor they will let you go. If you ever can't find anyone to talk to, you can e-mail me and let me know what's up and I promise I'll listen. If you're slipping into depression, get help. Do't be afraid of what people will think or if they will worry; if you need help, get it. Talk to your mom or dad or the guidance counsilor, or a lot of your teachers. Many of the teachers care about you more than you know. Don't worry about what people think of you. Just be kind to them, and that's all you can do. If they can't accept you, that's their problem.

Answer 9

First of all, stop helping them and giving them stuff. They are just using you. I know it's tough being a kid in school, I was picked on too. You can't let them get what they want from you and then have them turn around and treat you like crap.
Second, you should find a school counselor or someone to talk to if your parents aren't available. Good luck!

Answer 10

Most of the time, people who act like that are jealous of you. They may not always act like it, but they are. I know it may not seem like it now, but it will get better. Be nice to them, but don't suck up to them. You don't need to always do what they want you to do. One way to make new friends, is to find someone that seems like they don't have very many friends and go and talk to them. Usually the person will appreciate the company, and usually they will be nice back. Most people appreciate true kindness. Also about the girlfriend situation, you don't need one. When you find the right person to date you will know it. God will send someone for you to date. Sometimes you just have to be patient and wait. Good luck, and God Bless!

Answer 11

Don't worry man, when you're earning millions as a professional basketball player you won't think twice about the dorks at your school when you were 13. I say, spend your time practicing those slam dunks.